Two days ago I was talking about confidence and how to get it in part I.
There are two ways on how to be confident. The first one is your body language! I gave some good examples how just holding your shoulder differently can help you to get more confidence.
The second way is all in your mind. People are shy, fear the change, don't like themselves, don't appreciate what they are blessed with, have a mind full of negative thoughts, have a broken self-image and act negative in general. I am definitely not a psychologist but I went through the process getting confident and how to love myself. I am still not where I want to be but I am learning and I give the best I can. So no worries, if you feel down or if you agree to at least one factor which I mentioned above, there is a way out if you always stay focused and give the best version of yourself day to day.
One thing that hold people back from pursuing their dreams is fear of failure. I was asking myself where does the fear come from? Its all in your mind! So what you first need to do is to overcome the fear in your head. You may wonder what I am going to say next but failure is good. People exist on earth to make mistakes and to learn from them. Imagine being born with all skills that you can think about, how would life look like? Please think about that…
I want you to say the following words to yourself every morning
- I want to make mistakes so I can learn from it
- Failure helps me to get the best version of myself
But please keep in mind, its a different story if you make a mistake 1-2 times or if you do the same mistake a bunch of times. Everyone fails at something but strengths is who is able to learn from these failures !
5 powerful ways to boost your confidence
Stay away from negativity and spread positivity
Its obvious that negativity is bad for you. Not only for your aura, it also stops you to grow. Just imagine having someone in your brain who controls your feelings. There is someone who exist for positivity. Give him/her the control over the steering wheel.
Dont accept failure and get rid of the negative voice in your head
We all know the voice inside our heads that tells us to stay in bed, don't grow, just chill and watch some TV. Its preprogrammed that you will fail again and again. Don't accept the voice, fight against it.
Get to know yourself
Write down everything that you like and everything that you don't like about yourself on a piece of paper. When you realized what you dislike about yourself, you are able to work on it and defeat it!
Get prepared
Its hard being confident when you are scared of an upcoming situation where you know you're not doing well at it but if you know whats coming, you wont feel the fear that hard anymore.
Focus on solutions
If you are a complainer or often think about problems and what could go wrong. Stop it! Focus on solutions rather than on problems. An example „I am fat and lazy“ okay and you can solve that. You can motivate yourself and start getting fitter and having the shape you dreamed of.
There are a lot of great ways on how to get confidence but I chose these 5 because these worked best for me.
A huge factor is also the smile ! Smiling helps spreading positive energy and makes you a lot happier. It also makes you look more confident.
Quote of the day -
Life is ten percent what you experience and ninety percent how you respond to it. ― Dorothy M. Neddermeyer
If you were interested in reading about this topic, be sure to check out the first part of „Confidence and how to get it“ because you need both ways ( Body language & inner strengths ) to get the results you dream of.
Thanks for reading
Stay focused
Love,Soldier