After a breakup from a long term relationship I found myself single and
thrust into the dating world
I decided to go out to a club one night and try my luck. Earlier that day
I went out and got a haircut, bought a new shirt, and a new pair of pants. I took a shower, shaved and put on a little cologne and I was ready.
I was feeling very nervous when I pulled up to
the club, took a
deep breath and went inside. There were a million thoughts running
through my head as I walked around. I saw many pretty women and
my first though was that they were all with someone. I walked over to
the bar and ordered a drink. I looked around and tried to make eye contac
t with some attractive women. I was not having any luck and started feeling
frustrated. I had finished my drink and ordered another one.
After my 4th drink I finally had enough courage to walk up to some women.
I saw a pretty blond girl on the other side of the bar, walked up and
said " Hi I'm Scott". She completely ignored me like I wasnt even there.
I felt totally humilated and rejected.
I went back to my spot at the bar and had another drink. I tried talking
to other women and had no luck. I went home early feeling miserable
about myself. I wondered what was wrong with me.
I have read many books and when I calmed down I realized that my
whole approach to the club was wrong. I walked in there with zero
confidence, took no risks and waited 30 minuites before I said a
word to anyone. Next week I would go back to the club and things would be different.
Next week came around and I was excited when I got to the club.
I was pumped up and "KNEW" that as soon as I walked in there "EVERY"
women wanted me to talk to them. I decided that I would accomodate
them all as soon as I walked in. I walked into the club, said hello to the
bouncer and made some small talk with him. As I walked through the
crowd I smiled and said Hi or Hey to every woman I walked by. Some
ignored me and some say Hi back. I went up to the bar an order a Coke
from the cute bartender and made a little small talk with her. I took a sip
of my coke and walked up to a group of girls standing next to me. I said hi ,
made so small talk and said it was nice meeting them but I was going to
mingle.
I must have stopped and talked with every guy and girl in the club.
I was having a great time. Every time a song came on I liked I just walked up
to a girl , grabbed her hand ( remember I had already taked to her) and went
out to the dance floor.
I must have got 5 or 6 numbers that night. Kissed one girl I really liked and
went home feeling amazing. I thought it was funny how different things had turned out .
It was the same club, the same girls, the only thing that was different
was my attitude and how I felt about my self.
I learned a very important lesson that night. With no tricks or gimmicks,
just being out in the crowd, being myself was all I needed to meet beautiful women. I have to admit at first it was hard walking up to strangers and putting myself out there. when I did it more and more , it just got real easy.