Even figures like Arnold Schwarzenegger we consider as special, after all, we think, it must take a special person to become the strongest man in the world, and a state governor, a movie star.
Quite impressive Countless number people presume them as black swans, who came out from others and their identity is worthy of praise. Come to think of it, very few swans are black, yet does this mean that ordinary swans (or ordinary people) are of less value? Clearly not.
Everyone is unique in their own way are unique. But this rears up an interesting point. If each of us are special and unique, then that simply means that none of us are. If the norm is special, then being special is meaningless. One mat ask, ''where does our obsession about being special come from''?
By default, everyone thinks they are special
First of all, we are hard wired to feel special, or on the other hand wants to feel special. On top of this, our parents incline to see us as special from birth (although we are their children and are special in that sense).
This makes us either want to be special to vindicate their views, or grow up thinking we are genuinely special and unique. Right from birth, we see those who are seen as smarter, more attractive, or charming succeed where most of us don’t.
Deep down inside us, we all want acknowledgement, its simple human nature. So when we see others getting it, we either think they are uniquely special, or we just get jealous. When we get the recognition or acknowledgement, our self esteem and confidence gradually grows, this can be extremely good for you, but can also have the effect of having an overly distended sense of pride and worth, and hence think ourselves special to everyone else.
Feeling special is dangerous Inasmuch as we want ourselves to be the special ones, most of us are just common. Some people are plainly better than others at things.
his might seem as an abuse for some, but think about it, it is unthinkable to be perfect at everything. Though some people might be better than you at one thing, you might be better than them at another thing still. We can take a look at people like Schwarzenegger or Elon Musk as if they are special. But there are some things that you can do that they would find it difficult to do.
The major problem is, we only see the things that they are great at. I might, for instance, cook better than Elon Musk, or speak better than Arnold Schwarzenegger. This perspective of only seeing the positives and great traits can apply to our view of ourselves too. Someone who is exceedingly prideful and sees themselves as incredibly special, will naturally have a limited view of themselves. They'll become blind to their problems.
NOTE Each and everyone is unique and special in the sense that there is nobody in world who is them. There never has been before, and never will be ever again.
So instead of trying to be better and unique than everyone else, what’s left is to be great in your own way. You might love to write and are great at it, so why not just celebrate your writing skills. Probably you won’t end up being the next Michaelangelo, but why should that stop you?
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