Good morning Steemit!
Yesterday morning we got into a rather heated discussion at our house about makeup (of all things). Now we have four beautiful daughters. Their ages are 17, 13, and 11-year old twins. So all of them are at some stage of wearing makeup, although the twins are restricted to more muted color palettes until they gain more experience. Anyway, the discussion started not over my girls' makeup choices, but mine.
I woke up yesterday in a very, I don't want to adult mood. You know, one of those days where you just want to tell the world to "stay back about 10 feet if you don't want to loose your head". And I think that came through in my makeup choices. It was a little more dramatic, and edgy-er than I would normally do, but not so far off from the makeup I wore almost daily in my teens and 20s.
Nearly every member of my family felt the need to question my choices. Now, I realize that they are not used to me wearing much makeup, if any at all, so something more dramatic might be unusual, but I fail to see where it would become an issue. I have always encouraged the girls to explore their own creativity, yet somehow I am not allowed the same lee way. Why?
Anyway, given the obvious disdain my family units felt for it, including being told it "looked like crap" and "wasn't attractive or sexy at all", I caved and redid it to a style they are more used to. Although I truly did like the more dramatic look myself.
Which is where the argument ensued. Do women wear makeup to make themselves feel good about themsleves, or is it to be attractive to a potential mate? Should the opinion of those closest to us matter in how we choose to look and dress, and should we be forced to compromise or change to conform to their ideal of what we should be? It definitely raised a lot more questions than I would have ever expected. Especially given that we are trying to raise our girls to be strong, opinionated, creative women. It seems that conversations like this shouldn't be relevant within the environment we have tried to create for them. Yet it did happen, and I can't help but think that it has something to do with residual ideas of our own childhoods rearing their ugly heads.
Below is a side by side comparision of the two "me's" yesterday. What do y'all think? Should I have changed it?
How would you have handled the situation? How do you feel about the subject of makeup in general? Let me know in the comments what you think.
~Tabz
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