Last week, my 2.5yo was scheduled to have 2 hours worth of major dental surgery. I had massive fears & anxieties that were deeply affecting me. My go-to stress management tools that I learnt at uni weren’t cutting it, so I stepped it up & allowed my intuitive side to guide me - something that is becoming easier with time & practice. The power in these is quite humbling - especially when used together, and I’m certainly grateful to have them in my life.
This is what I ended up with:
So I chose Juniper Berry & Helichrysum for their amazing ability to shift & process fear & pain. A drop of each in my hand, rubbed together then inhaled deeply to the count of 10-15 from cupped hands was incredible. My fear seemed to be around my personal experiences with surgery as a child, which were horrific. Thankfully, times have changed & doctors & staff are much gentler & considerate of children than they once were.
Juniper Berry helps you understand the things that you fear are intended to be your teacher; supports you to learn the lesson & face the fear with courage. It acts as a catalyst to access & address unexplored fears, it teaches there is nothing to fear when you acknowledge & accept all aspects of yourself. Helichrysum is the oil for pain, it heals the emotional pain that you have been carrying with you. It offers strength & endurance, restoring confidence in life & yourself.
Ylang ylang was actually suggested by my beautiful aromatherapist cousin - so I applied it straight to my temples. Ylang ylang is a powerful remedy for the heart, it allows the release of emotional trauma of the past, restoring play, intuition & joy whilst nurturing the heart.
Danburite is the white stone you can see, I carried it in my pocket as needed. It is beautiful & allows you emotional healing & to release fears & anxiety.
Kunzite is in the macrame necklace I made & wore constantly. The gorgeous pink stone that I love dispels negativity, allows trust & heart healing to occur whilst reducing your fears
I did discover my deep fear through this process. It wasn’t the fear of a scary experience for him, or even the anaesthetic. It was - and is - a fear that other people don’t place the same value on his life as I do, as all his family & friends to. As a child with Down syndrome, it is clear he has a disability. The stories I now have in my heart, shared by other families in the communities I am now part of, of the medical negligence & treatment of people with disabilities, scares me. Society judging my little boy & not seeing his perfect heart & soul because of his disability is my fear. I have a feeling this will always be a thing for me. But I am so grateful to have recognised it. Having the anaesthetist put my little guy’s well being first by cancelling the surgery has allayed some fears. I will keep working on the rest as we wait now for the surgery which is rescheduled for January. The procedure didn’t go ahead because of congestion 😣 It should be a little easier on my heart this time.