So today, my brother and I found ourselves in the middle of what felt like a full-blown gender war debate.
It all started because of the trending scandal in Nigeria involving a popular Who Wants To Be A Millionaire host, his wife, and a very famous artist. Allegedly, the wife cheated on her husband with the artist, and the husband got angry enough to leak the story through a blog.
Now, from everything being said online, the man himself isn’t exactly innocent either. During their marriage, he allegedly cheated repeatedly, disappeared for weeks at a time, and publicly enjoyed the luxury and stability the woman provided while still treating her badly behind closed doors. According to the gist flying around, she would plead with him to stay committed to their marriage, but he constantly returned with new attitudes and fresh disrespect.
So while discussing it, my brother suddenly got upset and said that regardless of whatever the husband did, the wife had no right to cheat back. Fair enough. That’s a valid moral stance. But then he followed it up with, “Because she’s a woman and women are subjects to men.”
Now that statement completely threw me off.
I genuinely didn’t expect that kind of thinking from him because I’ve always considered him wise and open-minded. But hearing that felt like I had accidentally traveled back to the stone age. This is a completely different century. Society has evolved, women have evolved, relationships have evolved and thankfully many people no longer see women as beings designed simply to endure suffering in silence.
Now, if he had argued from a moral standpoint alone, I would have understood. Personally, I also think if someone cheats on you repeatedly, the healthier thing is to leave and file for divorce rather than revenge-cheating. But the moment the argument became “she’s a woman”, I checked out emotionally.
Because why are we still reducing women to subjects beneath men in 2026? What made the debate even more intense was when he started using the King James Bible to back up his point. And I had to stop him right there because, respectfully, that argument has never fully convinced me. The Bible, as we know it today, was written, translated, edited, and interpreted by men during periods where women were not even fully regarded as equals socially.
So yes, I’m going to question certain interpretations. At this point, I strictly told him they would either need to show me the original untouched scrolls or the heavens themselves would need to open so I could hear God audibly calling women subjects to men before I fully buy into that narrative. Because at the end of the day, we are all human beings and humans respond differently to pain.
Was cheating the best response from the woman? Probably not. But I also think people are too quick to judge reactions without acknowledging the emotional damage that led there in the first place. That woman was clearly grieving within her marriage. Loneliness inside a relationship can make people emotionally vulnerable in ways outsiders may never understand.
Maybe she leaned on the wrong shoulder and maybe made a bad decision. But it’s interesting how society often expects women to endlessly absorb betrayal with grace while men completely lose their minds the moment they experience even a fraction of the pain they’ve been dishing out. That’s the part that really gets me.
The same man who repeatedly cheated suddenly couldn’t handle being cheated on himself. Funny how pain only becomes unbearable when it finally knocks on your own door.