So yesterday i was talking to my good friend who is from nigeria. We were talking about how our countries are like and various other topics, wherein he told me something so surprising(to me)
In Nigeria :
If a man wants to marry a woman, he will have to give money to that woman.
But in India :
If a man wants to marry a woman, it is other way around.
Woman needs to pay the man.
So the man gets the woman as well as the money.
I really thinked quite deep about this.
-- In india, the number of women is less than number of men : so logically value of women is more than men if considered populationwise.
-- India is not too good of a country when it comes to women safety or girl child birth. Girl children are still killed in abdomen, though governments has passed some laws which gets half implemented.
So why is the girl child murdered anyways?
Because girls are considered burden in india.
Though i must admit a lot has changed over the years but things are still not good. When someone gives birth to a girl, the only and only reason to kill them is paying huge money for their marriage. People prefer boys hoping they would earn and bring money to home.Think for a moment, if indian marirage culture is like that of nigeria, A MASSIVE PROBLEM OF INDIA : KILLING THE GIRL CHILD : would merely exist. Rather i suppose, killing of boy child might begin. And people would be giving birth to army of girls, not army of boys which is the current situation in India.
And yeah paying money to groom is called as DOWRY SYSTEM. Even when the woman pays the man at the time of marriage, in some cases, in-laws torture her to bring in more money or assets, sometimes resulting in suicide of the bride.
These things are deep in India, and believe me, other than talking about these problems, i am doing something in real life to change this all, be it changing the ways around my marriage or marriage of my siblings , or daunting or taunting people to make them understand this is not fair.
There is lot i am planning to bring forward in coming days that would rather prove being a surprise read for everyone here.
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