Ever heard about "Donot do bad and you will not have bad" principle, maybe from parents or teachers, or friends? You must have and i am sure some of us are living our lives by it.
What a beautiful saying :
DO NOT DO BAD AND YOU WILL NOT RECEIVE BAD.
But with the world becoming quite a jungle of negativity, is it easy to just sit quite and let people harm you or ruin you AND you do nothing in return to get that mental peace in rage?
It is not indeed, but that is when you make choices for yourself, for your behavior, for your life and what way you want to live it.
Lets start with an example :
Someone named abc is my office colleague. She would try to insult me or put indirect taunts on me to belittle me or harm my reputation. And no one around seems to notice it, they just listen those wordings of abc's mouth and make a perception of me. If i will react in such situation, that would harm me or my behavioral outlook. So i will stay quite and tackle abc in some other way. Neither will i insult her nor argue with her.
And this happens for real with me( and for with most of us), sometimes i have even tried conveying this to the person in front "I donot like your so and so comments about me, please refrain next time" and i will be saying it the most humble and professional way possible. But you know what, the results have been bad in most cases, result being the communication between me and the other party would stop totally.
So either i would try to improve my relationship with abc if i have to be around her everyday. OR i would just plainly ignore getting in contact with abc by any means.
This comes from my real life, where abc is a real junior colleague of mine who literally creeps me out. She would ask me in front of everyone " where were you since past 1.5 hours?" , "you were not on your seat". Generally noone would notice any such things or even if they notice nobody would ever ask knowing its none of their business. But abc in this case intentionally does it in front of my manager which is kind of expsoing( it matters ot manager where was i) and poses harm to my office reputation. If i would say anything in reaction to abc in this case, i will be the criminal, treating a junior rudely. So initally the solution i tried was to ignore her, totally, but it didnot work out. She sits in my front and i have to work with her, train her. So i am just trying to be her PROFESSIONAL FRIEND, where i speak only as much as mandatory.
I am sure there are many day to day examples you can relate to.
Does this gives my soul peace?
NO
Sometimes i really get the urge of reacting and putting out my frustration to the "stupid cunning girl" (my mind calls for these three words). But then i control and think about, no, this is not my way.
i want to live by :
DO NO HARM.
Receive no harm.
Karma is there to take care of other's deeds, i should worry about mine only.
and only God knows how many bad future happenings i am erasing from my lifebook by just trying to be good and controlling myself.
Do no harm and no harm will come, goes for real.
And for people who donot believe in an such things : like what is the proof, i decrease the harm coming my way by being good?
I will say, "do no harm, receive no harm" mindset helps me being positive and a happier person at the end of day.
“Hell is paved with good intentions.”
Samuel Johnson wrote this beautiful sentence in his book "The life of Samuel Johnson"
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