Earlier today, I was just at home, all by myself, and I thought about some things that I have been seeing in the past, and I began to think about how it has been easy for these things to be in manifestation. What am I talking about? I am talking about polygamous marriages or relationships. Well, back in the day, most of our fathers indulged in doing this kind of act. They get married to lots of wives and give birth to lots of children. Most of these children in return grew up to become wayward children, if not all of them, and the reason is that having lots of wives and you being just their father might not be able to oversee all these children, let alone oversee the wives.
Normally getting married to just a wife is sometimes hard for a man because you have to be up and doing in most cases, and also the children also require your full attention as you so strive to work to provide for the family. This alone is a big nightmare to most of the men now, comparing it to having multiple wives. Before I came up with this idea of writing this post, I had thought about a series of samples I had seen about those that got married to multiple wives and how their marriages ended up. Well, to some families, the children have to come up for themselves because the parents, especially the father, will only concentrate on those that listen to him when he talks and take his advice. But for those that despise reproach, he casts them away.
I had some friends then who grew up in a polygamous family. Most of the time when we talk about things that are happening in the family, he always complains about regretting how he finds himself in a polygamous family because the mother of the other children will always want to strive for their own children to be better than the other ones, and for his own mother, who would also want a better life for him, we also strive for him; then competition will set in, and the fight will start.
The only thing I can advise him as my friend is wanting him to remain focused and try as much as possible to make sure that he leaves the family house on time so that he can start his own life afresh. This is a very sad case because, come to think of it, the family who has just a father and a mother still suffers the pain of their parent tearing apart sometimes, let alone when you have lots of mothers to compete with.
As a human, in this type of case, I will be very sure that the children in a polygamous family will not like each other because there is no way the father might try to unite them; it will eventually not work. This is just my own way to advise the growing youths of this generation that we should try to be faithful if we are considering entering into any relationships because what we do will determine how the lives of our children will be and vice versa. Always think well before you give your heart of love out to those that will not value it.