Dr. The Leaping Koala_ my journey in life # 11

Hello dear Steemians,

How many of you found the perfect one (or just someone to date for now)? And how many are still looking?

A while ago, I had a chat with one of my male friends about dating and the difficulties we are facing to find a decent date.

Since I come from a conservative Muslim background, my experience with dating is still in its infantry as I only started dating around 2012. and...Oh boy! What a disaster I was. I totally have no idea how you people in the western world do it all the time... (Forgive my jealousy of successful daters :P)

But considering the large number of singles out there, and the availability of gazillion services of on-line dating. It is striking how many singles are not able to find partners!

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Now the question I keep asking is, Why is it so hard to find a suitable partner (man or woman) among those available singles nowadays?

Is it possible its because of...

1- What I call "The Rotten Apple SHock syndrome" or "TRASH" for short
This is when the poor soul that signed up for the dating website and went through all the trouble of cross psychological examination with hopes to meet "THE ONE", ends up meeting "A TRASH".

I admit, I would reaaaaaally dislike meeting "A TRASH". But they are there, everywhere in the world an wherever they go, they ruin someone's life or reputation. They are very toxic. They love using people and stuff the wrongest way possible and destroy any trust or decency that would have otherwise been built naturally and nicely.

Now what do you think the poor souls do after meeting one "TRASH" after another on these websites?
Shivers...
Of course they become super paranoid and think of any new person they meet as “This person is TRASH until proven not” instead of “This person is good until proven TRASH”

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Or could it be...

2- The f@cK-Ing Long List, "KILL" for short
When one of those pure "Disney" souls go to these websites with hearts full of hopes, singing love songs and having their heads sh$t-full of preconceived images of their Prince Charmin' and Snow White.
The disappointments, oh the disappointments...
When reality hits hard and their delusions gets crushed. What may have been a simple "KILL" before, becomes the real "KILL"er to their future of finding anyone or being found

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