On my long commute home today, I was thinking about sexual pleasure. Not so much the act of it, per se, but more what it means to experience pleasure, and what kinds of blessings conscious pleasure has brought me in my life. Specifically, self pleasure, and true sexual pleasure not for the sake of merely getting off, but as a tool to connect with the self.
Every person has an energetic sexual center. Each and every one of us.
When we connect with the sexual center within, using love, gratitude, and awareness, we open up pathways within our physical and energetic bodies for wellness and self-awareness, and even more so, self-acceptance. I have found in my own practice of conscious pleasure, a kind of radical self-acceptance, and it has not only helped me connect with my self, but it has helped me connect with my partner, has healed old scars of trauma and abuse, and even been a beautiful guide on my path to emotional and energetic wellness. Tantra and other methods of sexual meditative and yogic practices are not only meant to make you great in bed (though they certainly can). They are an incredible tool for breaking out of the mold, breaking you out of YOUR mold, and they can allow for redefining patterns of conditioning and habit to create fullness, joy, ecstasy, creativity, and new ways of relating, in all aspects of life.
Some things came to mind as I considered all that conscious pleasure has taught me. I thought I would share them with you all, as I feel they are an excellent meditation, or positive self talk, to those who wish to connect to their sexual centers.
** A Meditation for Radical Self-Love **
I am capable of connecting with my sexuality.
I am capable of connecting with myself through my sexuality.
I am capable of connecting with others through my sexuality.
I am capable of mindful breath.
I am capable of healing.
I am not defined by my sexual trauma.
I accept my sexuality.
I am able to transform my sexuality into energy.
I am capable and deserving of pleasure.
I am able to give myself pleasure.
I do not deny myself of sexual pleasure and release.
I do not deny myself of emotional release.
I do not judge myself for my appearance or my ability to create sexual attraction.
I am capable of ejaculation (regardless of my gender).
My body is a beautiful vehicle.
I am, first and foremost, in a relationship with myself.
I am a conscious, loving being.
I am infinite beauty.
I am infinite potential.
I am infinite.
I practiced this meditation with three full, mindful breaths in the beginning, and a mindful breath before and after each statement. Breath is the great connection to the self and the spirit, and can assist in accessing the subconscious. Indeed… we truly need to Breathe it to Receive it.
How did you feel as you were reading these statements out loud? Where did you feel resistance, and where did you feel release, or acceptance?
I look forward to sharing more about conscious pleasure with you. I would love to hear your experiences with Tantra, conscious pleasure, and your own explorations into sexual energy and Radical Self-Love. Please, don’t hesitate to share. And, please, enjoy the journey into Self-Love.
x
The Tree of Life
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