We are all afraid of loneliness. I guess I am not the only one who has a fear of being alone. Many people feel the same way.
But do we know what loneliness is?
Loneliness is a kind of phobia. Phobia that makes you feel like you are all alone in this world, or fear of getting away from your near and dear ones. No matter how strong we portray ourselves to others, each one of us has one or the other fear that scares us. Most of the time the cause of loneliness is separation. The fear of separation from loved ones and sometimes breakups are also the reason for loneliness. In most of the situations what we all do is, we try to divert our mind, and sometimes we indulge ourselves in wrong activities. We feel so frustrated that time that we are not in the state of taking right decisions. If we take any decision in that situation, there is a strong possibility that our decision would be wrong.
Why We Are Afraid of Loneliness
We are all afraid of loneliness because we depend on others for our happiness. We expect from others that they will make us happy. But did you ever think that why are we dependent on others for our happiness? Why others? Why we don't try to be independent for our happiness.
Let suppose if you depend on someone for your happiness, and somehow that person goes into depression or in any tension. At that moment, is that person really able to make you happy? The answer is 'NO.' He will not be able to make you happy, and instead of supporting him or her you will be irritated. What I am trying to say is whenever we get stuck with someone we expect only positive things. Like every coin has two sides, one has the positive impact, and other have the negative impact. Our mind is only looking for positive impact. We should know that there is nobody perfect in this world. The people are not ''black or white'' they are black and white. So if we are expecting good things we should think about bad things too.
What we do is we always look outside for our happiness. But the reality is happiness is already there in ourselves, and we are not able to see that. If we look inside of us, we will find complete happiness. What we all want is that happiness and love. We don't need to look around for this. The simple solutions to overcome your loneliness are;
*Don't expect anything from anyone in this world because somewhere we all know that our expectations are the main cause of our sorrow.
**Never give so much importance to anything. Always takes things very lightly even your life too.
***Be independent for your happiness. You are the infinite source of happiness, and you don't need to depend on anybody for your happiness.