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A few weeks ago, my close friend and I had a quarrel. I always help her care for her daughter while she is at work because she is unable to bring the girl with her because the workplace is unsuitable for kids. She started working in December and has been leaving the baby with me since then.
Last month, in January, I became aware that the infant wasn't feeding properly and that she had a persistent fever. I suggested that she take the infant to the doctor or a pharmacy to have a more powerful drug that could lessen the baby's teething fever prescribed since the one her mother had purchased wasn't working. My friend hadn't responded well when I had brought up this topic with her. When I reminded her about it again when she got home from work, she responded violently.
When the baby started crying again earlier this month, I knew something was wrong. I noticed that her feeding times were too brief, which led me to believe that the food she was receiving wasn't sufficient for her anymore and was the cause of her constant crying. I advised her mother to get her another type of food so that after she ate, she wouldn't feel as hungry right away, but she ignored my suggestions once more,I didn't bargain for a crying child when I set my New Year's resolutions, and I was only trying to help her, but she wasn't seeing it.
The infant stopped eating after a few days, and I told her mother that "you see, the baby has rejected the food." She still didn't understand how crucial it was to take good care of her child because she had always believed that as the mother, she knew best and didn't want a second person's opinion on the condition of her daughter.So when she came home from work, she refused to say anything to me, and she went on to do things by herself that day. I was upset with her because she wasn't seeing things from my perspective, so I called her boyfriend and told him about her attitude, and she snubbed me for days because of this issue.
At this point i was having this feeeling of resentment towards her, cause she made a statement that got me so mad, i didnt say anything to her aftwer she had made this ridiculous statement, i only reported her to her boyfriend who asked me not to be offended. i had also told him thwe things i was saying was for the childs benefit and not her but she has didregarded my own opinion and continued to leave the baby like that, which wasnt always easy for me to care for her.
I had this feeling of just telling her to always take the child to work, that if she felt another person's opinion wasn't needed in her daughters life, then she shouldn't leave her with me anymore, I was so mad at her, but after a weeks days for having this feeling towards her, I called her at work and gave her a piece of my mind, and I told her she should always try to listen to people's view, that way people wouldn't think she was so proud of herself.
I was relieved to be able to express myself to her, simply because I decided to act as the bigger person in order for peace to reign between us, for which she also apologized, and we were back to being friends.
Yes, there are times when we feel we can't make peace with people with whom we may have had a disagreement, and this causes us to be less than ourselves. Even in our minds, we will be depressed because we are harboring negative feelings towards someone, but when we free up our mind, we will be free, and there will be space for positive thinking.
Thank you for taking the time to read this.
This post was inspired by the emotion and feelings community theme of this month
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