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This is new year and i have been actively thinking and wondering how i was going to make things work my way. I wouldn't want to be a person that would be happy on the outside but chattered on the inside because of what i am passing through. Being depressed and worried is something that deals with your inner peace and the relative understanding between your brain and your mind. Being rich, having the fast cars, houses, wife, good business(s) or good relationships with people doesn't guarantee you happiness over depression, you need to have understanding within you that there is nothing you can't overcome. Life it self play it games upon our lives sometimes. Your response to any given situations determines how it is going to turn out for you, either good or bad.
"The secrete of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old but on building the new."
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You have to embrace yourself and believe that you can become whatever you want to become. Yes, you are going to be betrayed by your by your love ones, dissappointed by those you confide in, but that shouldn't be a problem to deal with these days, there is nothing new under the sun anymore. Let me share a true story of a struggle.
Segun was a boy grown to be a man out of frustration, molestation and domestice violence happening around him. He lost both his parents at a tender age, he was 14yrs old to be precise and one of his uncles took him in, under his custody. Soon enough, he does all the chores, does the laundry for his cousins and also hawks sachet water around after school hours. It is barely possible to see segun happy, playing or reading, while his cousins have the possible time on earth to whatever they feel like doing. There was a night they were all eating, one of his cousins threw away segun's food, he complained to their mum, only to be slapped on his face and ignored while his uncle saw everything but kept quiet. That same night, he was still beaten for that same action that how would he have reported his cousin, could you imagine?
That was the kind of life segun has been living for years. While he does hawking of sachet water, there was this man that took note of him most of the time selling sachet water, so after couples of stylishly teasing him and buying from him just to know him better and his kind of person, he discovered he is a smart kid, so they became friends that he is always happy to see him around. Upon all these abuses, segun still manages to be top his class while his cousins grades were so poor. For that alone, he was being punished vigorously for just being the best in his class while his cousins couldn't, dont forget that he had no much time to read, yet he could still have the best result. He showed his result to Mr. Samson that turned his friend and he was so happy that the he bought him a cell phone and gave him little cash too. Little did he know that he is going to receive the beating of his life. When he got home, they saw him with a cell phone and cash, without much questioning, he was tagged a thief that where and how did he get the money from and he explained to them how he got it, that night was a day he would never forget for the rest of his life. when his uncle and his wife collected the money, they claimed he stole the money from them and use it to acquire the cell phone. Mr. Samson has been trying to reach him on phone but not connecting through and segun couldn't hawk for like couple of days due to pains and injuries sustained. Couple of weeks later, he was able to meet with Mr. Samson, he narrated everything that happened and Mr. Samson was perplexed and almost cried. There and there, he promised to help segun school abroad.
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"Two key foundations of a successful carreer and life are consisitency of purpose and clarity of goals."
Segun was determined never to let anything weigh him down regardless of what he was facing. Ordinarily, he would have committed suicide like others do because some just got tired of life all of a sudden without thinking of what they are leaving behind without even given their self a second chance to see what they could become. Whatever situations you are going through, always find someone you can tell, someone you can confide in, in times of trouble, it will help you alot and keep you far away from thinking of committing suicide or genocide and if you are the one that hardly trust people with your secret, go find yourself a psychologist to help you out.
As i was meditating on what to do this morning, i came across so many reasons to believe in mybself and to tell myself "yes i can." So, i will advice you engage yourself, talk to people, read more books, travel if you can and make sure you do those things that gives you joy, no matter how small or ridiculous it could be, but shouldn't be a crime though.
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“You cannot do anything unless you allow your passion to motivate you. People may tell you, "you can do it", "you can make it" "it's possible" but when you tell yourself always " I can't make it", it's your choice that rules everything!”
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