There is a person close to me who sometimes makes me feel very angry, what he says and what he does, of course not only by the fact of saying or doing something causes me that emotion, it happens that many times he involves me or tries to get too close, I hate that.
Staying away from a person whose actions cause me anger is supposed to be the most sensible thing to do if I want to avoid those situations and those emotions, however, that person sometimes just shows up.
If this person disappeared from my life would I stop feeling anger? Of course not, unless those who listen to music with loudspeakers or horns on the subway or other public transportation would also disappear. And the list is long, however, usually, in spite of everything, anger is not one of my predominant emotions but when it comes, it can dominate me a little.
Anger or rage is sometimes necessary, it can serve as a defense mechanism or even as a defense. What would become of me if anger did not surface with this person I mentioned at the beginning? I would probably be at their mercy. There really are some very foolish people.
I remember once my brother's anger made us recover some goods that had been stolen from us. I advised him to leave everything like that and we would buy the things back later, but he got carried away by anger, acted on impulse and rage, took extreme measures together with other neighbors, then the thief was afraid and in a few hours he returned what he had stolen. Not everything negative is always bad.
I could propose to stop feeling anger and, if I did so, I would surely obtain a satisfactory result, not absolute, fortunately, but beneficial. And here I take the opportunity to clarify that by anger I mean a very great annoyance and exasperation of the mood, without this making me carry out a violent action (except for a couple of slaps to the person I spoke of at the beginning...)
Now, I cannot simply suppress an emotion by squeezing the center of my forehead, I must work on it. I think anticipation can help, programming in my mind what to say and how to act in certain situations and sticking to the script when it happens, little by little it becomes a habit and a habit. It has also worked for me to take a deep breath and immobilize my body for a few seconds or minutes, it has helped me to regain calm at certain times.
If anger did not exist in my emotions, I would be much more at peace and peace is what I value most in my life, to feel calm no matter what happens, with serenity and poise, without anger towards life, people or situations.
I am not sure if I have answered this: “What emotion do you think you could personally do without and why? How would it improve your life and what challenges would removing it bring?”
But, if you want to try it too, here is the link to @Galenkp's complete proposal for this weekend.
Thank you for accompanying me. I wish you good health and a dignified life.