If I had to ask for permission from an authority to succumb to the warmth of that body that I desire so much, to its kisses and caresses, and someone other than that person denied me the right to enjoy us intimately, I would surely have started a rebellion or be behind bars.
Sexual relations before marriage seem to me to be legitimate and even a right for human beings to freely express and exercise their sexuality without having to sign papers for it.
Some people simply do not believe in marriage or in the course of their lives they do not find it so easy to meet that partner with whom they decide to legally unite; even so, I do not see why they should deprive themselves of the pleasure of enjoying their sexuality.
I believe that for a sexual relationship to take place, all that is needed is the desire and decision of two adults, in some cases more than two people, but that depends on the tastes of each person and what they want to experience. I don't see why it takes more than that.
Of course, some people start their sexual life in adolescence; however, it is up to their parents or representatives to be attentive and provide them with the necessary guidance and support in each case.
In my case, if it were not legitimate to have sex before marriage, I would have to travel to another country because here in Venezuela gay marriage is not yet legal. It would be silly to think that before I signed the paper I was breaking the law just by succumbing to my carnal desires in my country and that just by traveling, for example, to Canada and signing a paper with my partner that now we can be intimate without fear of doing an illicit act or else I would have to deny myself the connection I long for with my partner.
All of that doesn't make sense to me, having to go through all that protocol and requiring permission from the law to exercise my sexuality in the way I consider it full. Many people believe that sex should only occur between two married people, and that any sexual activity outside of marriage is immoral and sinful. However, I find these views to be incredibly limiting and unfair.
I believe that we all have the right to live our sexuality as we see fit. What should be harshly punished by law are unhealthy and harmful actions such as rape or pedophilia.
For me, the idea of waiting until marriage to have sex is unrealistic and impractical. I believe that sex is a natural and healthy part of any relationship and should not be restricted by arbitrary rules and regulations.
We should not let societal norms and expectations dictate our personal choices and desires, as long as they do not harm ourselves or others.
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