<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8"?><rss xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/" xmlns:content="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/content/" xmlns:atom="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom" version="2.0"><channel><title><![CDATA[RSS Feed]]></title><description><![CDATA[RSS Feed]]></description><link>http://direct.ecency.com</link><image><url>http://direct.ecency.com/logo512.png</url><title>RSS Feed</title><link>http://direct.ecency.com</link></image><generator>RSS for Node</generator><lastBuildDate>Sun, 12 Apr 2026 13:56:45 GMT</lastBuildDate><atom:link href="http://direct.ecency.com/@wordstoliveby/rss" rel="self" type="application/rss+xml"/><item><title><![CDATA[What the F***]]></title><description><![CDATA[Where does worry come from, why am I panicking about things that may never happen ? What is it that makes me doubt that there could be a ‘positive’ outcome? I have been through many ‘scrapes’ if you could]]></description><link>http://direct.ecency.com/desteni/@wordstoliveby/what-the-f</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://direct.ecency.com/desteni/@wordstoliveby/what-the-f</guid><category><![CDATA[desteni]]></category><dc:creator><![CDATA[wordstoliveby]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Fri, 28 Feb 2020 21:04:12 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Guilt of behaving in a certain way]]></title><description><![CDATA[In a chat with a friend recently I commented on how in my life I have put others down in an attempt to make myself look/feel better as I perceive it. Why would I do this ? Why make another feel like shit]]></description><link>http://direct.ecency.com/desteni/@wordstoliveby/guilt-of-behaving-in-a-certain-way</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://direct.ecency.com/desteni/@wordstoliveby/guilt-of-behaving-in-a-certain-way</guid><category><![CDATA[desteni]]></category><dc:creator><![CDATA[wordstoliveby]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Sat, 08 Feb 2020 16:37:42 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://images.ecency.com/p/4HFqJv9qRjVeVQzX3gvDHytNF793bg88B7fESPieLQ8dxHzbC5JNRXdcio7tsGwknXCWxEyrVJXT7WVv6VhJJtyxJ73du2jhG4Eaf54jowuG2xswWAwpdkWAQvPcpVAWiA5M5wxVFLCksq9wkJkv5Xo6Ud9AeCGMW8E?format=match&amp;mode=fit" length="0" type="false"/></item><item><title><![CDATA[My own fox hunt]]></title><description><![CDATA[Today I witnessed a fox hunt - I knew they were still happening and I live near a prominent royal country home, where the biggest hunt in the UK was taking place, but I had never seen such horses looking]]></description><link>http://direct.ecency.com/desteni/@wordstoliveby/my-own-fox-hunt</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://direct.ecency.com/desteni/@wordstoliveby/my-own-fox-hunt</guid><category><![CDATA[desteni]]></category><dc:creator><![CDATA[wordstoliveby]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Sat, 04 Jan 2020 22:47:48 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://images.ecency.com/p/4HFqJv9qRjVeVQzX3gvDHytNF793bg88B7fESPieLQ8dxHcTkduHRkQyv58eUBTwbGhe5ts88mg1YhQh4NXhjAbqNxxf4AjNnWzyzPWdrkTKS2mwkrnBuYx17z1zCpD1QEFYwrVSv5dmnqrHNuzZAzbFMaLMMJyLpHL?format=match&amp;mode=fit" length="0" type="false"/></item><item><title><![CDATA[Back to Self]]></title><description><![CDATA[It’s ok to not always have to make a point/ to be right. I noticed at times how I was tempted to kind of fight to get my point across/words heard by others, for someone to agree with me and get onside.]]></description><link>http://direct.ecency.com/self/@wordstoliveby/back-to-self</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://direct.ecency.com/self/@wordstoliveby/back-to-self</guid><category><![CDATA[self]]></category><dc:creator><![CDATA[wordstoliveby]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Sat, 28 Dec 2019 08:49:12 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Drama queen 👸]]></title><description><![CDATA[I got to thinking today about drama and whether life is better or worse with drama in it? Do I create my own drama as a form of entertainment? Do I enjoy watching drama on tv, do I judge drama as not real]]></description><link>http://direct.ecency.com/desteni/@wordstoliveby/drama-queen</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://direct.ecency.com/desteni/@wordstoliveby/drama-queen</guid><category><![CDATA[desteni]]></category><dc:creator><![CDATA[wordstoliveby]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Sun, 24 Nov 2019 16:49:18 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://images.ecency.com/p/4HFqJv9qRjVeVQzX3gvDHytNF793bg88B7fESPieLQ8dxHoTgTNcrUpDnUAqow23RLxuj5NvXDZb7kn2NGxhRauZb9zBZcz9nCuxVQzmeCu3AMYsCf6xJNDz2FL33eoxeaB8xc8u3KeY9Qna62bJDQxp2gJ7FcyExN2?format=match&amp;mode=fit" length="0" type="false"/></item><item><title><![CDATA[Short love story...]]></title><description><![CDATA[I read a story on Facebook where a man wanted to leave his wife, because he ‘found happiness’ elsewhere - they had a fairly young daughter and in all the time they had been married had no real issues as]]></description><link>http://direct.ecency.com/desteni/@wordstoliveby/short-love-story</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://direct.ecency.com/desteni/@wordstoliveby/short-love-story</guid><category><![CDATA[desteni]]></category><dc:creator><![CDATA[wordstoliveby]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Sun, 17 Nov 2019 09:18:24 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://images.ecency.com/p/4HFqJv9qRjVeVQzX3gvDHytNF793bg88B7fESPieLQ8dxJ7MeHk6smJWAsYsrGJPdpsez2XoPKA27hftYyBNauLd3FBVnf6LXRaY1hKgtwnvEoSQxUG8V1qysDj6kfUvHsWvuAuvjM5BWiTUEVQJAhWLNJG6nScyjvn?format=match&amp;mode=fit" length="0" type="false"/></item><item><title><![CDATA[Omg I’m getting older]]></title><description><![CDATA[Today I visited an aunt that I haven’t seen for a few years - it made me a little sad and I was shocked to see how she had aged so much, her husband also has given in to old age and along with the physical]]></description><link>http://direct.ecency.com/ageing/@wordstoliveby/omg-i-m-getting-older</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://direct.ecency.com/ageing/@wordstoliveby/omg-i-m-getting-older</guid><category><![CDATA[ageing]]></category><dc:creator><![CDATA[wordstoliveby]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Sat, 09 Nov 2019 22:33:30 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://images.ecency.com/p/4HFqJv9qRjVeVQzX3gvDHytNF793bg88B7fESPieLQ8dxJ6J1efcUJB4vnjpNskrtQiq3orKbvxDPKTZk462HFha2qJdvRdjwagNaZVwpgdoQzPEuG7oTP38XkX55p1EKjSttJvNBWUnk4KegmPWqZw393EXa3FFVq8?format=match&amp;mode=fit" length="0" type="false"/></item><item><title><![CDATA[Beauty and the Beast]]></title><description><![CDATA[I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to create a belief within and as me that I need to compare myself to others - and within this seek to find ‘good things’ about myself through comparing]]></description><link>http://direct.ecency.com/desteni/@wordstoliveby/beauty-and-the-beast</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://direct.ecency.com/desteni/@wordstoliveby/beauty-and-the-beast</guid><category><![CDATA[desteni]]></category><dc:creator><![CDATA[wordstoliveby]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Tue, 29 Oct 2019 23:53:12 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://images.ecency.com/p/4HFqJv9qRjVeVQzX3gvDHytNF793bg88B7fESPieLQ8dxHzfufNvSbqoU3E8wXQW9oePSEzvr9Fd6CMC6n22hscHnuDQJ6WwvGh3ssrF6PgswP9zZGA79gR3sxMsr1uyzythq6YdeccABFgdHcfcmJdniA2fsoYEaj8?format=match&amp;mode=fit" length="0" type="false"/></item><item><title><![CDATA[Trust in myself and others]]></title><description><![CDATA[I have realised lately how I am not fully living the word trust; there are still deeply routed memories that strike an ingrained level of hurt from being what I call ‘shit on’ in the past and from living]]></description><link>http://direct.ecency.com/yoga/@wordstoliveby/trust-in-myself-and-others</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://direct.ecency.com/yoga/@wordstoliveby/trust-in-myself-and-others</guid><category><![CDATA[yoga]]></category><dc:creator><![CDATA[wordstoliveby]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Mon, 14 Oct 2019 21:04:45 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Little miss angry]]></title><description><![CDATA[I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to create a belief within and as me that another is responsible for how I experience myself as anger and annoyance. I forgive myself that I haven’t]]></description><link>http://direct.ecency.com/selfhelp/@wordstoliveby/little-miss-angry</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://direct.ecency.com/selfhelp/@wordstoliveby/little-miss-angry</guid><category><![CDATA[selfhelp]]></category><dc:creator><![CDATA[wordstoliveby]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Thu, 03 Oct 2019 19:58:39 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://images.ecency.com/p/4HFqJv9qRjVeVQzX3gvDHytNF793bg88B7fESPieLQ8dxJ3X87pXMf1bwPGChcAQ2JioMsyLVFZnD55EPgW2Dv4qXjF4y4FiPckcB2LfGPyipSgicDWV6EY4Kn5jntdW2W9rd1ENTh3iuyUbtfjbnueA5ejw25Gkjzn?format=match&amp;mode=fit" length="0" type="false"/></item><item><title><![CDATA[Desteni Tools]]></title><description><![CDATA[Well its been a busy month for me - first world problems you could say a couple of holidays and a house move, I noticed at times how I put my body under a state of preparation, thinking I had to remain]]></description><link>http://direct.ecency.com/selfhelp/@wordstoliveby/422ubt-desteni-tools</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://direct.ecency.com/selfhelp/@wordstoliveby/422ubt-desteni-tools</guid><category><![CDATA[selfhelp]]></category><dc:creator><![CDATA[wordstoliveby]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Thu, 03 Oct 2019 19:47:54 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Desteni Tools]]></title><description><![CDATA[Well its been a busy month for me - first world problems you could say a couple of holidays and a house move, I noticed at times how I put my body under a state of preparation, thinking I had to remain]]></description><link>http://direct.ecency.com/selfhelp/@wordstoliveby/desteni-tools</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://direct.ecency.com/selfhelp/@wordstoliveby/desteni-tools</guid><category><![CDATA[selfhelp]]></category><dc:creator><![CDATA[wordstoliveby]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Mon, 30 Sep 2019 17:38:18 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Living panic as me]]></title><description><![CDATA[Recently I was in a situation where I had very little room, I was boxed in a seat and my legs wedged against the seat in front, my feet felt hot and I remembered an old feeling of panic “what if I need]]></description><link>http://direct.ecency.com/desteni/@wordstoliveby/living-panic-as-me</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://direct.ecency.com/desteni/@wordstoliveby/living-panic-as-me</guid><category><![CDATA[desteni]]></category><dc:creator><![CDATA[wordstoliveby]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Fri, 13 Sep 2019 22:25:03 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Keep calm and don’t panic]]></title><description><![CDATA[As I get older it’s interesting how I tend to worry more about minor things or ‘what could happen’ I have been known to stress about things that haven’t even happened yet. Recently we have taken on a lot]]></description><link>http://direct.ecency.com/desteni/@wordstoliveby/keep-calm-and-don-t-panic</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://direct.ecency.com/desteni/@wordstoliveby/keep-calm-and-don-t-panic</guid><category><![CDATA[desteni]]></category><dc:creator><![CDATA[wordstoliveby]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Sun, 08 Sep 2019 20:55:36 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://images.ecency.com/p/4HFqJv9qRjVeVQzX3gvDHytNF793bg88B7fESPieLQ8dxHdkcfQgzuiMfazmitsobTHMe2B1115oLYMdJCwWBSHZREAXrv6fZwT34NssGVAcQgCruheicNJYoY3satNiqJNcLPoaZBM4VzfhbYi3sF2UtkxoL1bvdF4?format=match&amp;mode=fit" length="0" type="false"/></item><item><title><![CDATA[Relationship]]></title><description><![CDATA[Relationship - how are relate to myself explains how I relate to others Looking at the word relationship and how I live it - do I have a kind, supportive relationship with myself ? not always - sometimes]]></description><link>http://direct.ecency.com/desteni/@wordstoliveby/relationship</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://direct.ecency.com/desteni/@wordstoliveby/relationship</guid><category><![CDATA[desteni]]></category><dc:creator><![CDATA[wordstoliveby]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Wed, 28 Aug 2019 21:54:54 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://images.ecency.com/p/4HFqJv9qRjVeVQzX3gvDHytNF793bg88B7fESPieLQ8dxHn3D2wN55r3FJhgSFUz1rFmufXnWbXLMon1tdo1Egj5F3PjEFZF5Gz7XV6jYLwRAkzpJEpxkv36b19VzHxGcH89FjJMRzqbKZNM4c9hWu9oqyr3zeooh6v?format=match&amp;mode=fit" length="0" type="false"/></item><item><title><![CDATA[To here no further]]></title><description><![CDATA[I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to create a belief within and as me that I should be perfect, not make a single mistake and to do so renders me as useless in my minds eye I forgive]]></description><link>http://direct.ecency.com/desteni/@wordstoliveby/to-here-no-further</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://direct.ecency.com/desteni/@wordstoliveby/to-here-no-further</guid><category><![CDATA[desteni]]></category><dc:creator><![CDATA[wordstoliveby]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Tue, 06 Aug 2019 21:41:27 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://images.ecency.com/p/4HFqJv9qRjVeVQzX3gvDHytNF793bg88B7fESPieLQ8dxHjDHAPazUGo7rpUtYCJMdKRoHpfPXnwuYMQe87ydiBjmZi2x7YE6aMYA83x7jdud3ZpFCUyDaeBpnEMCPqM8Js8nPtcxVCmc7iNprGA5VbVRFhzj3frA4n?format=match&amp;mode=fit" length="0" type="false"/></item><item><title><![CDATA[The green eyed monster]]></title><description><![CDATA[I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to create a belief within and as me that I need cosmetic surgery I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to become jealous of those]]></description><link>http://direct.ecency.com/desteni/@wordstoliveby/the-green-eyed-monster</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://direct.ecency.com/desteni/@wordstoliveby/the-green-eyed-monster</guid><category><![CDATA[desteni]]></category><dc:creator><![CDATA[wordstoliveby]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Sun, 04 Aug 2019 20:22:00 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://images.ecency.com/p/4HFqJv9qRjVeVQzX3gvDHytNF793bg88B7fESPieLQ8dxHYCyghebXgYvEmXKrtQvMVE5tsS7zu4EjMTNgqHRzYcvqpKGZkp6QssPiHbhQ78PknH2UZALhqctzHZytqmNTRpiMuG853sb7a1YEkcbSjSMdWe2M2DZ8a?format=match&amp;mode=fit" length="0" type="false"/></item><item><title><![CDATA[Abuse in this world]]></title><description><![CDATA[I have heard it said that you become desensitised to abuse when you see it or experience it often. 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