In 2003, my wife started studying to be a Heilkunst Homeopathic Practitioner and she would travel to Ottawa each summer for classes. It was during these summer jaunts out east that she was introduced to the concept of an Earthship. The thing that appealed to us about the idea was protecting our family from man made or natural disasters. The ice storms in Quebec and Ontario in 1998 were some of the worst in recorded history and people were without power during the winter for over a month!
This really got us started down the path of exploring how dependent we are on the grid and started the ball rolling on our desires to live out in the country. I often tease my wife and accuse her that the last 15+ years are 'her fault', but in reality it was her insight and vision that started us down this wild and crazy road called life.
In 2005 she then came home with this new term called a 'natural person' which then introduced me too the whole feudal system that the state put into place. My whole paradigm was shattered as I grew up thinking that the government is there to protect and serve me, when in actual fact it is abusive, coercive and designed for slavery and control.
After my six month pout, we sat down and confronted all of this new information and decided that we needed to act upon it. We recognized that our two boys were still vulnerable and so we decided that Carey would remain in the system while I explored what it would take to leave it! We wanted to protect the boys while I was testing and exploring ideas and concepts that were far beyond the social norms accepted by everyone around us.
I decided that I would take the risks as she would best serve the needs of the boys should anything happen to me. I was not prepared to sacrifice my family in the event I got into trouble walking this path. So instead, I sacrificed myself.
As it turns out, we all made sacrifices as staying in the city was no longer an option and in 2007 we sold everything and started building earthships on the land. I know that Carey cried for a month as the beginning was tough for somebody who grew up in the city. But she persevered and is now at the point in her life where she would never go back.
I grew up on a farm, so I had a good idea what I was getting us into. I quit my job to dedicate my life to providing for my family. It may seem odd as most people leave their family to get jobs in order to provide. But our view on life is the opposite of most. We spent the last 11 years working together, side-by-side to build a life of independence and self-sustainability. We taught our boys all that we could during that time. It was our goal to ensure that all their needs would be met, even if I was not around.
The beautiful thing about this journey is that even if I was rotting in jail or was dead, my family could still provide for themselves the basic necessities of life. If we were in the city my wife would have been forced to get three jobs again. Here, that is no longer the case.
Today the boys are out in the world finding their way in life. Our nest is now empty. I continue to push the envelope as I confront all the violent relationships in my life. Sadly that is usually the state as they have yet to learn their lessons in life.
My wife has been a rock and foundational pillar in our relationship and our journey. Most of what I share is her wisdom followed by my research. We work as a team but it is her insight and dedication to freedom, health and balanced relationships that have gotten us where we are today. She is the guiding light in our work and I chose to be the public face of it all in order to protect her!
In my view, the divine masculine is responsible for protecting the family and that is what I dedicated myself to do. It also required that I respect and honour the divine feminine within her. By working together we found a way to balance the two and become a powerful force of nature! There is no leader or boss in our relationship as we both lead by example. We make decisions based on consensus and we work through issues immediately should they arise.
Now that our nest is empty, it is time for us to open up even more so that we can lead by example and mentor the next generation in a time of peace, freedom and prosperity. We will do this together as we have done for the past 16 years.
I have no problems sacrificing my vessel for this cause. It matters not that my body perishes. The main goal is to ensure that my wife and family is protected by the violence all around us. When I have accomplished that, then I turn my attention to others. That is where I stand today and why I write and share the way I do. I have the full support of my wife in doing this work!
That is what I feel a spiritual warrior would do! Sadly, I've seen many couples break up because they are not able to come to a consensus regarding these issues.
If you are curious as to my wife's views on this topic, you can read her post here:
https://steemit.com/reconcilingrelationships/@carey-page/he-said-she-said-week-4-making-choices-for-the-family