"Thoughts are like folded or rolled up carpets; the conversation unfolds them and brings them to light. " Themistocles
Do you consider yourself shy? Do you find it difficult to start a conversation?
Although it seems incredible to you, the mere fact of taking the first step to start a conversation, especially with strangers is something that represents a challenge for many people who suffer from shyness. There are those who feel anxiety asking themselves: What am I going to talk about? How do I start? Will they realize how nervous I am? Questions such as these only increase insecurity in such situations. However, it is vitally important that we cultivate this wonderful social skill that will allow us to develop our interpersonal relationships and open doors for us everywhere ...
Below you will find some strategies that you can apply if you wish to perfect this communicative skill:
Start at your home
-The best space we have to start developing an effective conversation is at home, as this will build our family relationships and at the same time we will reinforce self-confidence. How do we do it?
-The main thing is to show genuine interest in others, who shows interest not only expresses himself but also listens carefully to what others want to communicate ...
-Share with some member of your family some pleasant or funny experience that you have lived during the day. (This will allow you to be natural when expressing yourself with someone you trust)
-Cultivate good reading habits. Those who follow a reading program will not only enrich their lexicon, but also always have good ideas to include in their conversations ... Take advantage and share with others what you are reading!
"Reading makes man complete, the conversation makes him agile, writing makes it precise"
Francis Bacon
When you are with strangers ...
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We all go through times where we are somewhere surrounded by unknown people such as: the university, a park, the lobby of a hotel, a party, a business meeting among others. However, if the people around us are sociable, it is usually they who break the silence, but ... What happens when neither of the parties takes the first step to start the conversation? In that case we can put into practice the following:
-Breathe deep and relax. This will allow you to act naturally and be friendly.
-Observe with prudence. If you are an observer, you are likely to get an idea of the other person's mood. Do you seem sad or happy? Does it look completely closed or receptive? If already in the greeting you take into account some factors like these will be easier to approach it.
-Smile. The smile will not only calm your nerves but is also contagious, it is proven that most people who give a smile receive another back.
-Take into account the environment that surrounds you and make a comment or praise of it. From there you can leave a very good conversation topic.
-Menciona some matter of mutual interest.
I already made the first contact ... and now ... What do I do?
If you really want the conversation not to stop, consider the following:
-Interésetete by the point of view of the other person ...
-Plan a question of opinion. Avoid closed questions where you will only receive a yes or no answer, instead, ask open questions where your interlocutor can say what he thinks about it.
-After asking a question, listen carefully to the answer, avoiding all kinds of distractions from your environment such as: the cell phone, sounds, vehicles, among others ...
-Show respect for your interlocutor taking care of your body language: make a visual contact and a nod with your head that shows that in fact that person has your full attention.
Do not forget! The art of cultivating a good conversation starts from the inside and can be developed through desire, spontaneity and constant practice: We become what we practice! For this reason, I invite you to put into practice all the tips raised in this post. At the same time, I recommend that you take into consideration the following: Act safely even if you feel insecure, smile, feel proud of who you are, share your experiences and listen to others, to improve yourself day after day. When you least expect it, you have crossed the thin line of shyness and you will find yourself conversing fluently on various topics, surrounded by people who enjoy your company ...
I hope with all my heart that this information has been useful for you!
I wait for you in my next post!
Success and Blessings for you!