Goodevening ladies and gentlemen. Permit me to have the singular honour of welcoming you to yet another exciting episode of your favourite show, "Saturday Night with Zizy". Yes, it's been an amazing journey. While preparing for this show, I realized that this is the 15th episode and 16th week since the introduction of the show. Am I excited? Hell yeah! I am so excited I have come this far. Were there times I felt like giving up and abandoning the show? Well, truthfully, yes. It's been four months and it's been challenging.
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RELATIONSHIP TALK WITH ZIZY
Last week on the show, we talked about when love dies and signs that show you are falling out of love with your partner. Relationship is no bed of roses. Every relationship has it's challenges and if care and attention is not given, the relationship dies a natural death. Nowadays, we believe that people are exchangeable. We opt for the easy way out of finding a new partner once we feel our partner is no good. We forget that everybody has flaws and so we shouldn't abandon someone because they need a little of inner repair and besides who says the new person will be any better?
True, feelings trapped in a loveless relationship is emotionally exhausting. It is a burden that you experience every moment of every day, wanting to commit or feel loved even simply wanting to be noticed and acknowledged by your partner and not having those desires met leaves an empty feeling. A loveless relationship simply means one or both of you are not having their expectation met. One of the first key to saving a loveless relationship is to find and fix the problem that is eating the relationship away. This starts from making sure you both want to fight for the love. It is a lost battle if only person is fighting to ignite the passion and love back in the relationship.
HOW TO AWAKEN DYING LOVE
Communicate. When one or both of you notice that the love is fizzling out and are interested in igniting the sparks then it is important to talk about the issues, listen to one another, list out what you actually believe is responsible and then offer your opinion. This is a good start. From there, progress to talking more. Talk about each other's day, talk about your feelings, ask questions where appropriate and offer advice when solicited. Do not overwhelm your partner with your irritations and worries. Compliment each other a lot and watch the gap bridged.
Do the things you used to to when you first started dating. When we make our relationships a routine, it becomes boring and the love fizzles out. This wasnt so when the relationship was new, there were lots of interesting things to do. There were lots of Hangouts and surprises and this boosted the love. How about getting back to those things you did in the beginning that worked the magic.
Be romantic.partners become less romantic as a relationship gets older. This shouldn't be so. Rekindle your love by sending flirtatious text or email in the middle of the day for no reasons. Lovers love to see surprise text messages and calls from their loved ones even in their busiest moment. Tease them a little bit and talk about how much you miss them you already know how to turn each other on mentally and physically, use that to your advantage.
Re-evaluate the reason you are together. The first time you agreed to date each other and became a couple, what drew you to each other? Was it money, lust, loneliness or love? What qualities did they possess that you found valuable? Do they still have those qualities? Discuss about it and be open to constructive criticism and self improvement.
Spend more time together. Be more into the relationship than before. Make yourself available and make your partner your priority. Avoid intervening factors like internet, television, friends, work etc that can ruin quality time spent together. Spend time together without distractions. Find a balance between your love life and other activities.
Cut out external influences. When we let in external influence, it may ruin our love life. Some external influences brew toxicity. Keep your relationship private and if you must talk to anybody about it, watch who you tell and what you say. Do not go about exposing your partners flaws to others. They may have answers but such answers may do more harm than good. Make your partner your best friend. If you have issues, talk it out with your partner.
Accept what you can't change. Learn to take the good with the bad, accept and work with what you can't change. Fighting over the same topic always worsens your relationship. All couples have perpetual problems and these problems are rooted in differences in personality, lifestyle, childhood or life experiences. Accept they are never going away, those messes, late nights, busy work schedule, eating habits etc. Honouring each other's uniqueness and finding common ground and being able to negotiate your differences can help strengthen a relationship.
In trying to re-ignite your love, bear it in mind that some people are just not compatible. Some relationships are bound to fail from the onset. It is what it is. Not all relationships can be saved. Abusive relationship either physical or emotional should never be saved.
DATING TIPS
Do not stay in a toxic relationship just because you have been together a long time and you don't want all that effort to just be picked up by someone else. You only hurting yourself. Let them go.
FUN CORNER(Just For Laughs)
Virginity used to be a wedding present, now it is a birthday present. What the hell happened to us? If you know you know.
DEAR ZIZY
Anonymous 1
, I have an issue I would love to hear opinions from your followers. This is not a sex problem. I met this girl last week when I was coming out from the bank, she was trying to cross the road with my guy and i got attracted to her and so asked my guy to tell her someone is falling for her and she said he should give me her number. We have been talking on phone for close to seven days now and i think it is mutual because she calls/flashes a lot too. This morning while we were talking on phone, she complained about her dad, that he is annoying her and when I asked her what was wrong, she told me it is personal and so i let it slide. Later that day while we were chatting, she said she wants some help from me that I should please give her 5k. Remember we just started talking seven days days ago. Please guys, it you are in my shoe, will you give her the 5k because I am having double mind on that. Thanks
Anonymous 2
Dear Zizy, maybe I am paranoid but I think something is wrong in my relationship. Recently my boyfriend started acting weird. His calls dropped and then he almost never chats me up except I chat him up first. He also started using words like, 'hey", "hi" instead if hi sweetheart that he usually does. If i say I love you to him, he struggles to respond. I can feel it that he is struggling. Two Months now and we are yet to see each other which is unlike us. We see every two weeks before. I have asked him what was wrong severally but he keeps saying nothing please I am loosing my mind. What do you think? Don't ask me to talk to him about it because I have tried severally but he will still tell me I'm just complaining unnecessary that nothing is wrong.
CONCLUSION
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