Should children have privacy? | ¿Los hijos deberían tener privacidad?

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Many of the things we think about are due to how we were raised.

I was reading Hive account@amatorrs' post I've written on impulse again! How embarrassing! and thinking about how I never had any privacy at home, and also about how fortunate I am to have the freedom to write down my thoughts and ideas after a long day.

If you want to understand how this relates to her post, I recommend reading it; it's very good.

At the same time, a question came to mind: Should children have privacy?

Although it's a somewhat controversial topic, especially with current technological issues, I firmly believe that it's very important to respect children's privacy, regardless of their age.

The constant judgment

Something that often accompanies a lack of privacy is judgment.

If they write something, they are judged; If they take a picture, they're judged; their clothing is judged, and so on indefinitely.

I feel it's a habit, partly acquired out of fear that children will make mistakes or that something bad will happen to them. However, constant judgment doesn't produce the desired effect, but rather:

• Children who won't tell their parents anything for fear of judgment. And therefore, it will lead them to make more mistakes than the ones the judgment "seeks" to prevent.

• Children who, even if they make mistakes, won't have an adult to guide, protect, and advise them, because they won't trust their parents.

• Insecure children. We might think this is limited to their physical appearance; however, it also encompasses a lack of decision-making or an inability to set boundaries.

• Children who will be more likely to experience violence and normalize it. If parents are violent towards their children, violate their privacy, and don't respect them, this behavior becomes normalized; Therefore, they will accept it from others.

• Children who will replicate their parents' behavior in everything. Creating a never-ending cycle that needs to be broken.

Could we say that lack of privacy and judgment is violence?

I think all of this can be translated as violence. However, it's rarely discussed because it's the parents who perpetrate it. Since it's considered parenting, "it's okay," because the goal is "to prevent" it.

When the reality is that it is violence; we've just normalized it.

"So, what do you propose, more or less, if you don't even have children?"

Not having children doesn't invalidate an opinion, from my point of view, because at some point we were children, and this experience left its mark on us, which we then used to decide whether or not to replicate.

Therefore, I believe that even if you don't have children, give yourself time to mature, but above all, think about what you want for your children in the future.

So, the most important thing when making a decision is to think about how it will affect others. Is this really good for my child? How will this impact their future?

I feel that when we stop to think, it makes the decisions we make better.

The same thing happens when we make a mistake. To truly learn from it, we have to stop and think; that's when reflection comes, and therefore, when a similar situation arises again, we act differently, achieving a better result.