<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8"?><rss xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/" xmlns:content="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/content/" xmlns:atom="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom" version="2.0"><channel><title><![CDATA[RSS Feed]]></title><description><![CDATA[RSS Feed]]></description><link>http://direct.ecency.com</link><image><url>http://direct.ecency.com/logo512.png</url><title>RSS Feed</title><link>http://direct.ecency.com</link></image><generator>RSS for Node</generator><lastBuildDate>Tue, 21 Apr 2026 09:16:27 GMT</lastBuildDate><atom:link href="http://direct.ecency.com/created/hive-180595/rss.xml" rel="self" type="application/rss+xml"/><item><title><![CDATA[Chapter 00 - Practical Empathy Forward & Beginning]]></title><description><![CDATA[Note: This free version of my book is a living document, not the most updated version of the book. Contact me at scott[[at]]oceanmedia.net OR use the form at to request a PDF or EPUB of the latest version]]></description><link>http://direct.ecency.com/hive-180595/@scottermonkey/excerpts-from-practical-empathy-forward-and-beginning</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://direct.ecency.com/hive-180595/@scottermonkey/excerpts-from-practical-empathy-forward-and-beginning</guid><category><![CDATA[hive-180595]]></category><dc:creator><![CDATA[scottermonkey]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Mon, 22 Mar 2021 12:30:36 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://images.ecency.com/p/3RTd4iuWD6NUeJEn5AVrJUoyatFqBqfcCJi1N7UixR4g2KPKN7w8NpZL7XoqCufQZzwgZtKfmdViD7MEXrmsGLQQcvQda1vZoSP3QnhhDG6ryRz4E8PxBcprcBzNLEkWNyFM6RwxYAkD7deGbQWJHtkYFZ9jzv8JtApDiKWd1NHcd4?format=match&amp;mode=fit" length="0" type="false"/></item><item><title><![CDATA[Peaceful Parenting Taken Too Far]]></title><description><![CDATA[Excerpt from chapter on Parenting & Teaching from my book, Practical Empathy. Permissive <---> Practical <---> Authoritarian A friend came to visit the other day. She complained some that]]></description><link>http://direct.ecency.com/hive-180595/@scottermonkey/peaceful-parenting-taken-too-far</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://direct.ecency.com/hive-180595/@scottermonkey/peaceful-parenting-taken-too-far</guid><category><![CDATA[hive-180595]]></category><dc:creator><![CDATA[scottermonkey]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Mon, 26 Sep 2022 17:51:12 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://images.ecency.com/p/3RTd4iuWD6NUeJEn5AVrJUoyatFqBqfcCJi1N7UixR4g2KPKN7w8NpZL7XoqCufQZzwgZtKfmdViD784BoqSx5dQep7CN8SWdAT5dtCTTZW5F5xM4cuHKixQ7mm1uJxQu4Aj8To594MLV5RgLpwGPtJXiS83M9wgbL8smGUN4nUjHx?format=match&amp;mode=fit" length="0" type="false"/></item><item><title><![CDATA[Chapter 17 - Empathy in Business]]></title><description><![CDATA[Chapter 17 – Business What place does empathy have in a business environment? First, let's investigate from the perspective of an employee. Later we will put ourselves in the boss' shoes. Have you experienced]]></description><link>http://direct.ecency.com/hive-180595/@scottermonkey/chapter-17-empathy-in-business</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://direct.ecency.com/hive-180595/@scottermonkey/chapter-17-empathy-in-business</guid><category><![CDATA[hive-180595]]></category><dc:creator><![CDATA[scottermonkey]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Thu, 07 Apr 2022 16:59:03 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://images.ecency.com/p/3RTd4iuWD6NUeJEn5AVrJUoyatFqBqfcCJi1N7UixR4g2KPKN7w8NpZL7XoqCufQZzwgZtKfmdViD76sTk16x1exxgi7ggo7L84EayzAwW1s87wWDfwBH26tPbdjJr8asrvDnMjgPLiJ2uMpZVHsmBHJHVqL69dBwNWYrN8j3SRQaa?format=match&amp;mode=fit" length="0" type="false"/></item><item><title><![CDATA[Chapter 11 - Roommates]]></title><description><![CDATA[[platonic and romantic] Your friendly neighborhood author has spent many years with a diverse array of roommates, male and female (some platonic), in addition to AirBnB hosting and Couchsurfing.com hosting.]]></description><link>http://direct.ecency.com/hive-180595/@scottermonkey/chapter-11-roommates</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://direct.ecency.com/hive-180595/@scottermonkey/chapter-11-roommates</guid><category><![CDATA[hive-180595]]></category><dc:creator><![CDATA[scottermonkey]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Tue, 16 Nov 2021 17:19:48 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://images.ecency.com/p/3RTd4iuWD6NUeJEn5AVrJUoyatFqBqfcCJi1N7UixR4g2KPKN7w8NpZL7XoqCufQZzwgZtKfmdViD7hYQCGqofmTNiVjnvHHPXzoGYM24pHidRWMGvC9Ay4tHTL4RhgPnHi6VzHvmUgriP9zifurvDvdNvMFM9Dqd8atKWiAJRmUkW?format=match&amp;mode=fit" length="0" type="false"/></item><item><title><![CDATA[Chapter Final – How to start and run a meetup group]]></title><description><![CDATA[Getting started – name your group I use Meetup.com because of its population and popularity. I named the group "Emotional Intelligence Play Group" because I wanted a large umbrella title that]]></description><link>http://direct.ecency.com/hive-180595/@scottermonkey/chapter---how-to-start-and-run-a-meetup-group</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://direct.ecency.com/hive-180595/@scottermonkey/chapter---how-to-start-and-run-a-meetup-group</guid><category><![CDATA[hive-180595]]></category><dc:creator><![CDATA[scottermonkey]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Tue, 22 Jun 2021 19:32:42 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://images.ecency.com/p/3RTd4iuWD6NUeJEn5AVrJUoyatFqBqfcCJi1N7UixR4g2KPKN7w8NpZL7XoqCufQZzwgZtKfmdViDjQFiX3ktTtXFTXEECSuHgvYbEQMZmGgpj5dUjKhrXzCwiU9hRgYB5UVFRLW8Y6hsCVRTfHAXqr2Uh1LEs9ERhRXczScaLHeRt?format=match&amp;mode=fit" length="0" type="false"/></item><item><title><![CDATA[Chapter 13 – PEQ can turn you into a lie detector]]></title><description><![CDATA[After many years of practicing the Practical Empathy (PEQ) method of empathy, I've become much more aware of when I'm being lied to. How did this happen? My hypothesis goes like this: (a) When we communicate]]></description><link>http://direct.ecency.com/hive-180595/@scottermonkey/chapter-13---peq-can-turn-you-into-a-lie-detector</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://direct.ecency.com/hive-180595/@scottermonkey/chapter-13---peq-can-turn-you-into-a-lie-detector</guid><category><![CDATA[hive-180595]]></category><dc:creator><![CDATA[scottermonkey]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Tue, 15 Jun 2021 13:56:21 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://images.ecency.com/p/8DAuGnTQCLptZgjHUrRAJGcW4y1D4A5QVJJ7zjzqqKdfVHSS6NapSCCBe8ybtnzKXYy3CGNSsjAV8tT9fiRCTr5z8muVMcJmKwMytjKEpn2mQeMZMNudHN2ZoNRibJuofVv5XcLKsuoxHh73u44VZ9tfkrfuQ7gZfZkN5TMMvpn?format=match&amp;mode=fit" length="0" type="false"/></item><item><title><![CDATA[Chapter 12 – Parents & teachers]]></title><description><![CDATA[Punishment & reward "Stop crying. Calm down. Knock it off. You're fine. There's nothing wrong with you. Be quiet. Shut your mouth and do what I told you to do. You'll get over it." Or]]></description><link>http://direct.ecency.com/hive-180595/@scottermonkey/chapter-12-parents-and-teachers</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://direct.ecency.com/hive-180595/@scottermonkey/chapter-12-parents-and-teachers</guid><category><![CDATA[hive-180595]]></category><dc:creator><![CDATA[scottermonkey]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Wed, 28 Apr 2021 15:21:27 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://images.ecency.com/p/3RTd4iuWD6NUeJEn5AVrJUoyatFqBqfcCJi1N7UixR4g2KPKN7w8NpZL7XoqCufQZzwgZtKfmdViDjPrndi3tQiZUwQmE83x35N6QUY45GriiRNtX3xRJ3bN7YefZPMW7unGCUAYPs9p22Sk9qq7nKqNUBhnyaQ2wKURfqrLFivgAA?format=match&amp;mode=fit" length="0" type="false"/></item><item><title><![CDATA[Chapter 10 – Romantic relationships]]></title><description><![CDATA[Let's begin by talking about the following two statements: “For Peace, Keep Your Mouth Shut.” "A wise man once said... nothing. He let her vent and then they had sex afterwards." I see some possible]]></description><link>http://direct.ecency.com/hive-180595/@scottermonkey/chapter-10-romantic-relationships</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://direct.ecency.com/hive-180595/@scottermonkey/chapter-10-romantic-relationships</guid><category><![CDATA[hive-180595]]></category><dc:creator><![CDATA[scottermonkey]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Tue, 20 Apr 2021 15:45:57 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://images.ecency.com/p/26uUsAjKTsXCDw7zixZR182JbFKvgzJ9YwsFpTVcRaGCmsqhA1unTgprEW2SfMJvjAjfAz69RiJwzXpNRvjjxHpkeJXB8xMEEabtsyYKGqNExRwAv9WquYekNJrY9Rstxv4boHnUn2zBwyHXA7D6EqCH9wHiCZorNMSiPY?format=match&amp;mode=fit" length="0" type="false"/></item><item><title><![CDATA[Chapter 09 – Empathize with an enemy?]]></title><description><![CDATA[“Why would I want to empathize with someone I consider to be an enemy, competitor, or politician?” Remember: Empathy is not agreement. So you risk no loss of integrity by practicing empathy with someone]]></description><link>http://direct.ecency.com/hive-180595/@scottermonkey/chapter-9-empathize-with-an-enemy</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://direct.ecency.com/hive-180595/@scottermonkey/chapter-9-empathize-with-an-enemy</guid><category><![CDATA[hive-180595]]></category><dc:creator><![CDATA[scottermonkey]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Thu, 15 Apr 2021 17:53:06 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://images.ecency.com/p/3RTd4iuWD6NUeJEn5AVrJUoyatFqBqfcCJi1N7UixR4g2KPKN7w8NpZL7XoqCufQZzwgZtKfmdViD6XLWckFSXuxkjiKX9eCNZegd5LfStShvYM5xvCZ8KKHsbgbDovWNhraNgF6gP1bB6DmyYJEUhAG328K6hZKtWzpVVTREcUYGW?format=match&amp;mode=fit" length="0" type="false"/></item><item><title><![CDATA[Chapter 08 – From anger to peace]]></title><description><![CDATA[I used to think fear was the emotion underlying anger. Until a woman in one of my Emotional Intelligence Play Groups said it was actually frustration. I thought about that. I tried to think of a situation]]></description><link>http://direct.ecency.com/hive-180595/@scottermonkey/chapter-08-from-anger-to-peace</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://direct.ecency.com/hive-180595/@scottermonkey/chapter-08-from-anger-to-peace</guid><category><![CDATA[hive-180595]]></category><dc:creator><![CDATA[scottermonkey]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Mon, 12 Apr 2021 19:16:09 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://images.ecency.com/p/3RTd4iuWD6NUeJEn5AVrJUoyatFqBqfcCJi1N7UixR4g2KPKN7w8NpZL7XoqCufQZzwgZtKfmdViD77cd1d4DAj6ReTfHXB7tg2XGJ6WZvJCe7aFeXrepCtVWKM1y1xFQiP1LT6ZFm3nnBEKbtwwVHJSS8NVZCoiQWDVxpQpQH6rhC?format=match&amp;mode=fit" length="0" type="false"/></item><item><title><![CDATA[Chapter 07 - Curing social anxiety]]></title><description><![CDATA[For awhile now and especially over the past ten years, social anxiety seems to have been increasing in intensity and number of people affected. Many have speculated as to why this is happening. Hypotheses]]></description><link>http://direct.ecency.com/hive-180595/@scottermonkey/chapter-07-curing-social-anxiety</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://direct.ecency.com/hive-180595/@scottermonkey/chapter-07-curing-social-anxiety</guid><category><![CDATA[hive-180595]]></category><dc:creator><![CDATA[scottermonkey]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Sun, 11 Apr 2021 14:29:06 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://images.ecency.com/p/8DAuGnTQCLptZgjHUrRAJGcW4y1D4A5QVJJ7zjzqqKdfVHSS6NapSCCBe8ybtnzKXYy3CGNSsjAV8NUZTgCyW89EEPfcvCshonS9mXpvgrQvi5KMg6SMfW8cXcjBriQetwizgRzxuyWk3yPASwB6UsjtKgFumTPwEHskTE8TsWn?format=match&amp;mode=fit" length="0" type="false"/></item><item><title><![CDATA[Chapter 06 – Being and sounding natural]]></title><description><![CDATA["Using empathy in crucial conversations without sounding like a mystic, psychiatrist, or predator" "I can see some benefits of using PEQ but I don't want to talk in a way that sounds weird]]></description><link>http://direct.ecency.com/hive-180595/@scottermonkey/chapter-6-being-and-sounding-natural</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://direct.ecency.com/hive-180595/@scottermonkey/chapter-6-being-and-sounding-natural</guid><category><![CDATA[hive-180595]]></category><dc:creator><![CDATA[scottermonkey]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Fri, 09 Apr 2021 14:58:21 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://images.ecency.com/p/3RTd4iuWD6NUeJEn5AVrJUoyatFqBqfcCJi1N7UixR4g2KPKN7w8NpZL7XoqCufQZzwgZtKfmdViD7J53XtwpU9rD1ZRHQKkfcDeBuRN5FY156oU5YFaUqdvm6XEen1pM4jJhpHFtEYae2rrYGWxRQbx4wB6yfj882px4uid7Mj1iE?format=match&amp;mode=fit" length="0" type="false"/></item><item><title><![CDATA[Chapter 05 - Evaluation]]></title><description><![CDATA[Evaluations and moralistic judgements are when we judge another person [often as "wrong" or "bad" but also including terms like "good," “wonderful,” and "awesome"]]]></description><link>http://direct.ecency.com/hive-180595/@scottermonkey/chapter-05-evaluation</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://direct.ecency.com/hive-180595/@scottermonkey/chapter-05-evaluation</guid><category><![CDATA[hive-180595]]></category><dc:creator><![CDATA[scottermonkey]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Wed, 07 Apr 2021 15:03:15 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://images.ecency.com/p/8DAuGnTQCLptZgjHUrRAJGcW4y1D4A5QVJJ7zjzqqKdfVHSS6NapSCCBe8ybtnzKXYy3CGNSsjAVApbQxub99P5otQANng5DP6VbrWv9A8kiG7XVsHK9QGPHJ9f3i3d7PLQ6SiivngptnxbcUQ1zvTSg8gkgad3Kg3hbB7fCnHU?format=match&amp;mode=fit" length="0" type="false"/></item><item><title><![CDATA[Chapter 04 - The Basics]]></title><description><![CDATA[Chapter 4 – The basics As beginners, the formula we use to practice and integrate PEQ is nearly identical to the NVC formula of OFNR; observation, feeling, need, and request. Credit The lists of feelings]]></description><link>http://direct.ecency.com/hive-180595/@scottermonkey/chapter-04-the-basics</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://direct.ecency.com/hive-180595/@scottermonkey/chapter-04-the-basics</guid><category><![CDATA[hive-180595]]></category><dc:creator><![CDATA[scottermonkey]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Tue, 06 Apr 2021 15:35:54 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://images.ecency.com/p/3RTd4iuWD6NUeJEn5AVrJUoyatFqBqfcCJi1N7UixR4g2KPKN7w8NpZL7XoqCufQZzwgZtKfmdViD7Wrz8g3p3cS6dr6GCWHkUKoJdyXowKSg4jimyKfsEksgduRrhMX7sHoC2HmgHBWn6xfNaBsWWu3MShB9WWwJ6QmqHZjKULskz?format=match&amp;mode=fit" length="0" type="false"/></item><item><title><![CDATA[Chapter 03 – Core principles & practices]]></title><description><![CDATA[In this chapter, I’ll share about some of the core principles of Practical Empathy and some of the typical connection-harming behaviors we can change. We are usually responsible for our own feelings Most]]></description><link>http://direct.ecency.com/hive-180595/@scottermonkey/chapter-03-core-principles-and-practices</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://direct.ecency.com/hive-180595/@scottermonkey/chapter-03-core-principles-and-practices</guid><category><![CDATA[hive-180595]]></category><dc:creator><![CDATA[scottermonkey]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Wed, 31 Mar 2021 20:01:51 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://images.ecency.com/p/26uUsAjKTsXCDw7zixZR182JbFKvgzJ9YwsFpTVcRaGCmsqhA1unTgprEW2SfMJvjAjfAz69RiJwzCgtfx1JHTptgVDt23M6Le56M5McteucrpWmu6gGNW8kdz231GyyVxXHq5Ry8rfmPqomcYpSpY66tHR4WJMXvDsb2v?format=match&amp;mode=fit" length="0" type="false"/></item><item><title><![CDATA[Chapter 02 – Challenges]]></title><description><![CDATA[Challenges are often (usually?) opportunities for growth. Integration Let's talk about what I call "The stages of integration." Like any practice with this level of depth, especially ones that]]></description><link>http://direct.ecency.com/hive-180595/@scottermonkey/chapter-02-challenges</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://direct.ecency.com/hive-180595/@scottermonkey/chapter-02-challenges</guid><category><![CDATA[hive-180595]]></category><dc:creator><![CDATA[scottermonkey]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Wed, 24 Mar 2021 00:37:03 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://images.ecency.com/p/26uUsAjKTsXCDw7zixZR182JbFKvgzJ9YwsFpTVcRaGCmsqhA1unTgprEW2SfMJvjAjfAz69RiJwzCgtfx1JHTptgVDt23M6Le56M5McteucrpWmu6gGNW8kdz231GyyVxXHq5Ry8rfmPqomcYpSpY66tHR4WJMXvDsb2v?format=match&amp;mode=fit" length="0" type="false"/></item><item><title><![CDATA[Chapter 01 – Primary advantages of practicing empathy]]></title><description><![CDATA[Like with NVC, the heart of PE is empathy. For those who care about credentials: My opinions here are based primarily on the following factors: (1) Over sixteen years of practice. (2) Facilitated over]]></description><link>http://direct.ecency.com/hive-180595/@scottermonkey/chapter-01-primary-advantages</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://direct.ecency.com/hive-180595/@scottermonkey/chapter-01-primary-advantages</guid><category><![CDATA[hive-180595]]></category><dc:creator><![CDATA[scottermonkey]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Mon, 22 Mar 2021 12:37:03 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://images.ecency.com/p/3RTd4iuWD6NUeJEn5AVrJUoyatFqBqfcCJi1N7UixR4g2KPKN7w8NpZL7XoqCufQZzwgZtKfmdViD79dw7CVozpkfhKcN13duJE9zhmxERRtYLai545F88ApCwRkqVKoswRmy8NUkFRQGHKMnFEvSc38aEZP3P3j9zDSEgywG5CwcA?format=match&amp;mode=fit" length="0" type="false"/></item></channel></rss>