Even if it is, I invite you to read.
We often see people who spend their time pointing fingers at others, looking for culprits, convinced that the world is conspiring against them. But they never stop to ask themselves: what if the problem is me? Because taking it on is not easy. I am clear in the fact of looking at myself in the mirror and seeing that my own attitudes are destroying my relationships, my well-being and my peace, it is uncomfortable, it is fucked.
Many times it becomes so difficult for us to see ourselves, that we even run away from the issue of identifying if we are falling into toxic behaviors.
It is essential to understand that a toxic person is not born this way, but harmful patterns are repeated without realizing it. We victimize ourselves, we manipulate, we live in negativity and it is difficult for us to take responsibility for our actions.
Nobody beats us in communication which is passive-aggressive, we need to control I swear everything and everyone!!!and sadly we move between dependence and rejection of commitment.
The interesting thing about this that I write in this post is that when one is told that you should change your attitude, that's when she asked me??? Perhaps to say what bothers me, not to allow disrespect, not to accept mistreatment, to be treated less than I deserve, to accept everything bad that I don't like is to be toxic, then I will be.
I prefer to set limits based on respect and assertiveness. We have all been toxic, in attitudes, actions, words... and also how destructive it can be to become self-sufficient, even if it is uncomfortable.
I confess that years ago I was this toxic even with myself. But when I reached a certain age, I went back in time and I didn't want the woman I was becoming. I am now in the process of a better version of me. This for me is the best decision to take care of myself!!! It is amazing when one realizes the change and how I am improving.
I think that a toxic person is a mixture of ammonia and chlorine hahaha without a doubt 😂 and to think that many times we are that mixture of attitudes and behaviors.
It is really very difficult to green oneself, but when we do it and accept our lights and our shadows, everything changes!. The important thing is to learn the lesson. It is a decision of intelligence and self-love. The best bet for healing.
We all carry patterns that we can repeat without realizing it, and no one is exempt from needing that honest look at oneself. Talking about this topic "toxicity" implies including ourselves in the conversation, because growth is a continuous process for everyone, without exception.
It is a good start to learn to recognize the symptoms, the signs of fear of abandonment.Do you dare to look inside? .
Janitze.🌷❣️
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