Nice person?...

You decide for whom yes and for whom no, and in that, is your freedom to be happy and be yourself. If you feel that you let yourself be lost or nullified by others, it's time for you to stop, and stop self-sabotage.

One of the worst mistakes you can make with yourself is thinking that you have to fulfill everyone, while leaving aside who you are and what makes you happy.

In my view of things, the one who sacrifices himself for everyone is not always a good person. It may be someone with damaged self-esteem who seeks attention from others on the verge of sacrifices.

To annul your life for another when it is not necessary is not nobility, it is personal humiliation and many times it is passive manipulation, so that they love you, accept you or do not blame you.

Sacrificing yourself, is only worth it for who is fundamental in your life. For the others, set limits. Assume your happiness and assume your happiness and let everyone carry their own.

A couple of days ago I met with a good friend at a cafe near our work and she told me that she had been carrying everything for years, after the death of her dad, separation from the couple, problems at work, anxiety, insomnia, panic crisis Do you know what was the first thing she told me? "I thought this was going to disappear on my own."And no. He piled on top of her. As it happens to a lot of people. It's happened to me too.

There is imbalance, in the one who gives to others without limits and in the one who gives to himself without limits.

Fundamentally, it is not the problem that destroys us. It is to let him move forward without doing anything. I asked Sandra, my friend, what is the point of trying to cancel out the pain, cover it up as if you weren't really suffering or deny it when you're about to burst inside? I think there is no reason to carry so much drama or suffering alone.

The truth is that this story is repeated very often, even, at some point in my life, I myself, was that person who did not seek help when I needed it most. And that's exactly where things get complicated. Because it's not just what happened anymore, it's everything you didn't solve. Everything you ignored. Everything you pretended was “under control." But the mind is not deceived. Neither does the body. And one day, you just collapse.

It is essential to understand that denying problems is not strength, it is abandonment of yourself. I gave my friend a big hug and told her: If you can't do it on your own, get help.

Don't wait until you're destroyed to do something. This isn't about “being strong,” it's about being smart.

Why? Because, without a doubt, life is not fixed by doing nothing, it is fixed with decisions. And if you don't decide to move, you're going to stay in the same hole, thinking about the same thing, waiting for something to change while you stay the same.You choose: either you keep holding on or you start to heal.

Sometimes, on those days when you feel lost, when you are not clear about who you are or where you are going, that's when you need to choose yourself the most.

Even if you don't always have all the answers, even if you doubt yourself, keep choosing yourself. Because even in your uncertainty, in your drama, your suffering, you are worth. Give yourself the opportunity to be your best refuge, to be your own priority. That's where the real transformation begins.

Janitze.🌷