There are people who can't even enjoy when everything is going well, it's amazing, because there's always a "But" and a "Worry" hovering around the head, and incidentally saying that what happens to you is that you're in a constant "state of alert" and not that it's going, that's a symptom of being living an anxious process, and we live in a constant alert, and really, although nothing bad is happening, our mind tells us the opposite and leaves us at a very low energy level, we lose focus and even disconnect from the present.
Without a doubt, I can tell you with certainty, that anxiety is a thief of the present, of peace, and it takes you away from happiness, because you are at war with life and you just want everything to be perfect, and life is imperfect and that will never stop happening.
Why? Because life is not a master plan that we control and if what you need is to control everything to feel peace then you will never have peace, nor will you be happy. It sounds harsh, but it's real, it happens to me.
Happiness does not come from control, it comes from letting go, from letting go, it does not depend on us and it comes fundamentally from being grateful for what you do have and from stopping fighting, complaining about everything.
Sometimes you just have to learn to live differently and living this way is not controlling everything. It's about starting to appreciate what is present.
The usual story: Someone stays where they are not wanted, hoping that one day things will change. He settles for crumbs, justifies the unjustifiable, endures whatever it is as long as he is not alone. And so time passes... until one day you realize that you got lost in the attempt.
Remembering with gratitude can transform the way you live through your loss. Think about a beautiful moment with what you lost: a shared laugh, a lesson learned, a dream that inspired you.
This act does not eliminate sadness, but it allows you to honor what was, giving it a bright place in your history. From there, detachment becomes a bridge to hope and transformation.
It is essential to understand that these irrational thoughts are born from anxiety and fear, and, although you imagine the worst, you really are able to overcome the contingencies of life.
At least today I write how much I appreciate this experience that lives in me, about how I'm going canoeing to enjoy some peace time with my usual companion, Kini.
I think that's everyone's struggle, every day for 24 hours... the anxiety that many times even sleeping peacefully leaves us calm, is a thief of the loss of peace.
Janitze.🌷
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