I was reading a post just few hours ago and I was forced to think about why does it take us so much to forgive and yet we want that same forgiveness from someone else? In my last post in this community, I discussed about the importance of tolerance and today I want to elaborate more on the different reasons or should I say possible reasons why we find it hard as humans to forgive one another.
Over time we have come to realize that no matter how we plead with some people, they will never want to accept you back for the wrong you've done to them. They see those that offend them as pretenders and that's why they don't want to forgive because they know they will surely do the same thing again. One thing we all need to know, myself included, is that, at one point or another, we have wronged someone and someone will wrong us too.
We find it so hard to forgive because we count the mistakes of others on other people, we see everyone except ourselves as the same, we easily use the generic word without really thinking if that is true or not. I've been a victim of using the generic word before and my younger brother brought it to my attention that it was wrong to use such words and I saw reasons with what he meant.
For example, if a lecture comes to class and just say a few words then give assignments and leave the class, most people will use the generic word, that's how they do". But in the true sense of things, is that really true? I'm not sure because I'm sure there are lectures who devote their time to lecturing their students and using that word is just so wrong. Sadly that's how we treat so many people that offend us, we see them as the other person and we judge them at such.
We also find it hard to forgive people because we think we have the right to not forgive them. Yes, we do have the choice of forgiving or not but that doesn't mean we have the right not to. We all are creatures, I mean, we were created and our creator being so kind and compassionate on us sent his son to die for the sins of those he created, does that even work? If our own creator could die for us, then who are we not to forgive our fellow man?
We compare the gravity of mistake (s) of the person before we decide whether or not to forgive them. It is hard to forgive some certain mistakes of people but then what do we stand to gain if we hold such grudge for the rest of our lives? Absolutely nothing but continuous bitterness in our hearts. I do find it hard to forgive others sometimes too and that is why this message here is first to me and then to you reading it. I believe we can do it if we want to, henceforth we should try to remove hatred from your hearts.
We should start preparing ourselves because someone will surely offend us but we should learn how to forgive them even before they ask for our forgiveness, that way we will keep teaching our hearts to love more than hate and I know by so doing, the world will keep getting better and heal from all the hates it has. When we see others as ourselves, it will be a lot easier to let love lead and forgiving them will then feel easier.
I'm not promising you that people won't offend us but then when we have a forgiving heart, it will be hard to see the mistakes of others as one that is so hard to forgive because you know it was ignorance or a mistake on their part and anyone can also make sure mistakes too. We also might even be the one who made such mistakes, so we should all try our best to develop a forgiving heart because it is very important for our peace of mind and happiness.
I hope this message gets to you at the right time. Until next time, stay AWESOME!!!