No More Deep Thoughts.

It’s funny that for many of us, we don’t really know much about ourselves or the people around us. We only make assumptions, but we never really know for sure. We assume we know our weaknesses, our strengths, and these drive us in ways that we don’t even notice. It determines our decision-making processes, and if nothing happens to force us to change our views, then we simply remain in that assumption.

In the same way, when we make assumptions about the people around us, many times, we don’t give them the benefit of the doubt; we simply just judge them based on what we see of them at first, and then we roll with it. But then, we don’t really know anything concrete, and such a relationship would be shaky. It will either get stronger when they do something that proves they are what you expected, or they do what reveals that you were dead wrong. Either way, that’s what assumptions can do.

Many times, people have an exaggerated idea of their own strengths, and when they think of their weaknesses, they tend to really underestimate them. But the truth is, when you believe you’re too strong for something, a challenge will come that will test that strength you believe you have. It will push you to your limits, and you just might admit being weak. And on the flip side, just because you think you’re not good at something doesn’t mean you can excel at it. The very idea that you’re not good at it could be the one thing making you suck, however, when you finally choose to try it out, you realize that there was nothing to it after all.

I believe that we shouldn’t have to go through trials and tribulations just to know for a fact what our strengths and weaknesses are. There are already enough people around us, making those mistakes, we should simply learn from them and make sure we don’t repeat them. And many times, what we really need is just some quiet time to do some deep thinking. In this age of social media, people find it hard to just sit down and think.

It’s almost impossible to spend time with your thoughts and not be distracted by other things. Because right now, the only time you’re not staring at a screen is when you’re sleeping. Any other time, there will always be a reason to do that. So, we don’t think about the things that we should be thinking about. And with other people, it’s sadly the same pattern.

People rarely have deep conversations anymore. As a matter of fact, the deepest conversations people have been based on our leaders, religious, or maybe gender-based topics. And many times, these are topics that are actually trending at the time, so they come up organically in conversations. However, we barely talk about deep introspective things. The kind of person you are, your views on parenthood, marriage, and all that.

When we have conversations like these, we know more about the people saying them. But when the majority of our conversations are just simple and bare minimum talks, with no substance or reason except to fill up the air, then many times we leave that conversation the same way we started it, with nothing new.

Honestly, I don’t even know if I was able to communicate my thoughts clearly in this post, I hope I did. But then, I’ll be dropping my pen now. Have a great day!