Good day, amazing people of the Hive blockchain. Welcome back to my blog. I am so delighted to have you in my blog PERSONAL PRESSURE.
Many times I sit and ask myself, why do we pressure ourselves by our own very selves? Personal pressure is a stress an individual feels because of the desire to meet a certain expectation. One starts experiencing personal pressure when they pressurise themselves towards achieving a particular goal. I keep telling people that whatever you do in life, never pressure yourself. Personal pressure is very bad; I call it a silent killer. There is a possibility that one will die out of personal pressure after people know that is happening and the person facing the pressure has gone below six feet. Most times we can’t really handle this pressure because society is pushing us to succeed, and family also knows what is best for us.
As humans, it is normal for us to feel pressure, but there should be a limit to it. We can be pressurised by family, finances, and peers, and also by ambition. When pressure comes from ambition, it is really something else because the person will put a lot of pressure on themselves to accomplish things, and they will keep setting goals just to make sure they succeed in that particular thing. One thing is real: we all have personal pressure. I understand that you face pressure because there are people who are expecting something from us, but the biggest mistake you can make is pressurising yourself. Once you do, you will see yourself working like a donkey to meet up, and when you don't succeed, you will be bitter within yourself.
Writing from experience, competition is more than enough to put someone under pressure because you keep comparing yourself with another person. This prompt just reminded me of something. There was a time in my life that the pressure was so much on me; the fun thing is nobody was pressuring me; I was the one pressuring myself. Because I am the first child of my family, that alone is enough to put pressure on me. I keep telling myself that I am the hope of my family. In my quiet time, I will always tell myself that there are people who are patiently waiting for me to succeed. I always wake up in the middle of the night, and many thoughts keep running through my mind. What if I fail? What if I didn’t succeed, but then I was still a young girl who just started a small business and had a friend, and the both of us started a business almost at the same time? Within two months our shop was so full. The biggest mistake I made that year was visiting her shop because it was after I visited her shop that I started pressuring myself. I went as far as borrowing money to buy goods. That was when I realised that the pressure was now much.
The pressure is not only that my family hopes on me; I borrowed money, and there is a time phase for me to pay back the money. The pressure became too much for me, to a point that my friends noticed. When they asked, I wanted to say I was okay, but sometimes in me, they told me to open up. I explained to them how I put myself into pressure. My friends told me it is okay to feel pressure, and it is real, but what matters is we shouldn’t allow people to push us to a point of feeling pressured. My friends thought me something that has really been of help breaking my goals. From that day I realised that people that make me put pressure on myself can survive when I am gone.
One thing about pressure is it can either build you or break you. Personal pressure is really because it is based on expectations.
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