There are many helpers in this world but not all of them actually help even when they try really hard. Have you noticed that? Have you noticed that even you sometimes do more harm than help? Your intentions and your heart may be in the right place but there comes a time when it is just not productive. There are many reasons why this happens but the most common one is that you are trying to pour from an empty glass.

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Are you a HELPER?

Let me start this post with my philosophy that everything we do is because of us. We even help others because it feels good to us. We are all selfish beings and we try to hide that selfishness behind big words like humanity, generosity and/or philanthropy. The fact is, we help others because it feels good to help. We do it because of us, not those who we are helping.

This selfishness is not a bad thing. Our moral compass tells us that some things in life are unfair, wrong or bad and we have a built-in need to fix them. Some of us have a bigger need and some have a smaller need, but the need is always there because we as humans strive to make things better. If that was not the case, we would had never left our caves.

>“Every single time you help somebody stand up you are helping humanity rise.” [Steve Maraboli](https://www.goodreads.com/author/show/4491185.Steve_Maraboli)

So, to answer my own question, you are a helper. We all are. You can say it is in our genes or you can say it is in our hearts, but the fact remains that it is indeed somewhere in us. The problem arises when we cross the line and help others with no regard for ourselves. That is the moment when we not only try to pour from an empty glass, but the glass itself shatters.

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HELP yourself first

Do you know why you need to put the oxygen mask on yourself first when you are on an airplane? It is because you will not be able to help anyone if you are dead. Simple as that. The same goes for all the help related stuff in our lives.

>“You never help anyone without helping yourself. You never pick up anyone without making yourself stronger.” [Debasish Mridha](https://www.goodreads.com/author/show/7441013.Debasish_Mridha)

We sometimes try to help without realizing that we are not able to and it often comes a time when we are just too tired and exhausted from helping and need to recharge our batteries. This is normal, we all get tired sometimes, and we all need to rest and replenish. By going to extremes and beyond our limits we will not only do more harm than good to others but we will also hurt ourselves in the process.

When you are strong, confident, relaxed and healthy you are able to do amazing things, including those you do for others. When you are at peace with yourself, you can help others find peace and when you are powerful you can help others find their power. Take care of yourself. Be kind to yourself and love yourself first.

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Keep your glass full, your mind sharp and your heart opened. Keep your smile on!

DISCLAIMAR: When in doubt what to have in your glass, a nice cocktail is always a good choice 😉

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