For a long time, I kept asking myself so many questions. I wa reflecting on my life.
So I keep asking myself, where are all the kind, thoughtful, good people? I searched around, felt a lot of disappointment. Friendships with people felt so shallow and there was nothing meaningful to begin conversation. Felt as if we were forcing it. It wasn't just flowing as it should be. Our relationship didn't last.
I thought it was because I was just unlucky.
But one day, something that's uncomfortable crossed my mind that I'm a part of that kind of problem. It was time I started paying attention, not to seek the validation of others, but to myself. The way I spoke, the way I listened. All this energy that I brought, it was kept into the room.
I just realized. I often understand, people understand me without giving anything up. Showing value, offering something for myself, for them to believe of course. I wanted kindness, but there was so much bitterness in me. I didn't know what to do. I wanted honesty, but I avoided telling myself they are too good. That was just a painful meal to just look into.
It is easy to believe and convince yourself that this world is filled with so many bad people. But it is harder to accept that this relationship often reflects on who in turn we are becoming. The truth is, you cannot just find good people around. It is our values that match with them.
The habits we cultivate, the mindsets we have, and the way we carry our emotional intelligence, it's what holds us together. When I changed the way I treated myself, a lot of things began to shift. When I became more patient, knowing my flaws, knowing my weakness, knowing my strengths, I was willing to be patient with others.
I stopped leading with that notion of anger and fear in me. I started attracting good people, healthy companionships and connections. They might not be the perfect, because no one is perfect, but they are real people.
Life is a strange world. Teaching us a very good lesson. When you only see some kind of relationship, you keep it within yourself. It's not just punishment. That is the feedback on what our values truly reflect. This doesn't mean that you have to keep blaming others for everything. But it means that we have to take responsibility for our inner world.
Good begins the moment when we stop pointing fingers at others. And we start asking all their questions. Sometimes the good people we are searching are waiting for us. And we need to build our value up. We need to build our trust. And we need to build our emotional intelligence for us to align with them.
This is the moment that changed everything.
And this is my reflection to change how I see and how I'm about to enter the new year. With new resolutions, new mindsets, a new way of life.
