I think most conversations nowadays promote white lies than before, either to hurt intentionally or to stop someone from getting hurt, like it's a habit. It's rare to find an honest conversation that even when it happens to us, we tend to struggle with it because it's either exposing us or hurting us in ways we don't want the conversations to.
In agreement to a response I read in the community, telling white lies should start with questions being asked to oneself. There has to be a valid reason for telling a white lie, where the lie is coming from and when to correct the lie told. Yes, there are some white lies that must be corrected eventually if it's really from a good side.
Personally, I've had a bit too many times when I tell a half truth or I hold back the truth, so someone doesn't feel hurt or bad about what I say. I still do it today but I'm well aware that I am not helping them. I should be able to tell them what they need to hear and not what they want to hear. That way, people will get to move on better.
Sadly, there are really hard truths that could even end someone's life, distort a mental system or cause havoc, if told as it is. I will say, this is where being careful with how the truth is told is very important. Telling a white lie may be the way out of this but the truth will always find it's way to them eventually and we don't want to be blamed.
Nobody want to get hurt, whether now or later, so the need for white lies should be well thought out before considering it. I don't remember any personal stories with white lies that turned out in ways I'd share now because I remember most of the time, I go back to say what I really think or the truth. I'm not so good at lying, white or black lol.
The truth in most cases, have always been hard to take. Especially when it carries a bad news and to someone who isn't mentally okay before the news, it's a hard one to take. But since we've know that, people have been taking truths in worse ways than we even imagine, telling it in the best ways possible remains the best approach.
Depending on what telling the truth would do for the person, holding it back should be the least thing to think about. Even as a joke, telling a lie is still a lie. Talk more of a lie told intentionally with the mind of not hurting or hurting someone. I also see white lies as a way of pleasing people.
Another question we should ask ourselves is, if we are told the lie that we are about to tell someone, would we be happy about it when we find out the truth later? I can almost be sure that the response will be a No in almost all situations. The truth is bitter, say it with some sugar if possible and that means, have a good approach.
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