How to Control Anger in Five Easy Steps
Anger is a great obstacle to mental peace and contentment. A person becomes angry when insulted. Differences of opinion leading to arguments also cause anger.
Anger is very harmful to the body. It raises the blood pressure and affects the heart. People preach about controlling anger. However, it is very difficult to remain calm when provoked. There are simple means to control anger. Try them the next time you get angry. Released anger will help to relieve burdens.
- Turn away
When tempers fly and words are spoken to provoke, it is better to turn away and go. Staying there to reply or explain your viewpoints will do no good. The other person will not be in a good mood either and will not listen patiently. Remaining silent and walking away will help to avert the argument or fight. This need not extend to hours or days. Ten minutes of silence will help the mind to remain calm and in control. There are people who follow and rain abusive words or even hurt physically. Such people should be reported to the authorities. It is not wise to suffer abuse because the abuser will enjoy the submissiveness and try to hurt more.
- Never shout back
Shouting back will aggravate the angry feelings. The remaining amount of common sense will vanish and one will become a slave to anger. It is hard to control the flow of emotions which will take the form of harsh words. Such words will continue the argument and lead the situation to an unhappy ending. When the urge to shout back occurs, simply keep quiet. The moments of silence will help the mind to see the logic. An unpleasant situation can thus be averted. Speaking softly and kindly will reduce the flow of negative energy. Love can transform even a beast. However, it should be remembered that a person who has no human qualities like kindness and love does not deserve any respect, pity or consideration.
- Practice silent contemplation
Practicing meditation helps to control the senses. Anger cannot be controlled in a day. It takes determination and patience to keep from shouting back. Meditation need not mean sitting cross-legged for hours when you don’t have the time. Observing nature and having lonely walks in the woods is also a form of silent contemplation. This helps to calm the mind and remove the negative impulses that arise. The serene person will not get upset by negative feedback because the ego will have been subdued.
- Anger is the outcome of hate- remove hatred
When a person is not liked, all the actions of that person will elicit a negative response. This can be seen in abusive relationships. The hatred evokes anger and fights can occur. Why hate? No one has the right to point faults. A person who makes mistakes should be given another chance to mend. In the case of work environments, it is better to keep away from a person who tries to make life a hell. Loving a person even when being hated, is a noble deed and will be rewarded sooner or later.
- Develop a positive outlook
A positive outlook will change the life of a person. Seeing negative in all things will only mar happiness and affect life. A stressed lifestyle can cause deadly diseases like heart attacks or strokes. Life is short and beautiful. There is not enough time to appreciate the wonders of the world.
source- sayee
Why spend, your valuable time quarreling or arguing life away? Appreciate the beauty of a flower or the smile of a child. Small things of beauty can transform the mind to make it pure, perfect, patient and serene.
Tips to vent your anger
- tear old newspapers
- clean your house - it works
- write your thoughts down on paper and burn it
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