the beginning of this year was rough for me. I had broken off my long-term relationship and just got fired. I was also living with someone who wasn’t nice a bit and I was all alone in a foreign country. The collection of nasty things happening at same time led me down a horrible phase of depression and anxiety. I thought I would never get out of there. But it was when I noticed two essential things about myself that I began to realize that of course, I was struggling. The first was I was a pushover. I let people walk over me for fear that they would hate me. The second was I was silencing myself to make others comfortable around me. And you know what, the people I worked very hard for hated me anyways. So, had failed in the idea of “be nice, don’t get in anyone’s way and be quiet”. Here are 4 illuminating lessons I had learned to draw myself out of the abyss and stop given a damn what people actually think...
· Find your voice, do not apologize for it and do not allow yourself to e silenced. This is very essential. The only way to start wholly living your truth is knowing what you stand for and what you don’t. the truth about yourself is that they would respect you even though you stand for an opposing view point from them.at least you stand for something. You do not need to silence your voice and yourself for anyone. no one deserves to be made comfortable by your silence. Your existence is not meant to make anyone else comfortable.
· Travel and see how big the world is. I personally swear by this one. Travel is an amazing healer in regards to lose of things. For me, travelling healed my whole heart from the sins of sadness and betrayal I was feeling. It reminded me how many people are out there, it allowed me to be anonymous, and feel really good about it and how to be far more independence and brave and try new things. This helped me recognize something else. People make connections and then forget.
· Read this awesome fact about human brain. The average human has between 50000 t0 70000 thoughts per day which means about 38 to 45 thoughts by minutes. So even if someone is annoyed at you for something you have done their brains are still working so fast, they’ve already forgotten about you and are unto something else. They don’t mean it. Now ask yourself, is someone who considered you for minutes really worth wasting hours of precious time worrying about?
· Meditate on gratitude.no seriously. meditate. I do it every day. I’m assisted by an app called “calm when it comes to my meditations” and I really enjoy guided meditations but meditations don’t usually take more than getting up, stretching, sitting. Sitting yourself comfortably down and thinking of all the good things in your life. The truth is the only person you need liking is you. And you don’t really need anyone else in your life because people are temporary anyways. When you are grateful for your life and you think about it every day, you don’t need to give a damn about what other people think. You are living your truth.