They, both, did the same mistakes we all have done. searching happiness outside. It's all inside, no matter if you're married, gay, rich, poor, happiness is locked inside each one of us, it's our work in this life learn how to unlocked it and live it.

Happiness start with thank you and continue with multiple blessings to everything in the day, it's impossible not to feel happiness if your mind keeps blessing everything in your way ;)