You learn to stop loving. When our eyes start to focus on the other person’s negative points, everything she does that’s hateful, everything she doesn’t do that you would like her to do, the result is the loss of love.

But love is also something that can you learn, doing the opposite. The problem is that people think that they don’t have control over what they feel. They think that if they feel hate, it’s not their fault, and there’s nothing they can do about it. And if they feel love, it’s also something natural, divine, magical, involuntary; a beautiful sentiment they have no power over.