A Memoir
Chapter 6
Excerpt: Relationships are the fastest way to learn a lesson or two about yourself. When your emotions are beaten time and again you are forced to look for the causes and find solutions, else you are doomed to misery. Thankfully, human beings are not programmed to suffer. While on your search to find those answers you are led to look within, to find what you can do to gain control of your life, to improve the quality of your relationship. This modus operandi will gently lead you to enlightenment. And so, it would be understood why I am seeing a direct connection between love, relationship, and spiritual growth. For this reason, True Love has become, for me, an equivalent state of being to Enlightenment.
TrueLove is a state of being. It is not about having a partner or being with someone. You can be in a state of TrueLove and not in a relationship. You can also be in a relationship and not in TrueLove. But, when you finally are in a TrueLove state of being, it affects your entire life - your health, your finances and naturally the nature of your relationships.
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The Spoon experience
Most of us are familiar with the simple experience of the spoon in a glass of water. If you are not, try it now – take a spoon and sink it into a glass full of water. Then, watch the spoon from the side, through the glass. If you have not seen it yet, you will be astounded! The spoon is broken!
The physical explanation for this phenomenon is rather simple: the density of the water breaks the light beams and so our eyes see a “broken” spoon. However, we do know very well that it is just an optical illusion and we trust our minds for being wise enough to distinguish what is real and what is not!
But what if we were very tiny creatures who lived our lives inside that glass of water? How could we then distinguish between the real spoon outside the glass and the broken image of it inside? In fact, we surely could not do that. We would spend all our lives in our wet world believing that the spoon is one thing while in reality, it is something different. The illusionary world is becoming ours! Only after we die and are pulled out and above of the glass we are able to see the real spoon and laugh at our past solid convictions. Our drive then would be to hurry back into the glass to play another life-game and see if this time we can realize that what we see is only an image of a spoon rather than the real spoon! What a game that would be!
The reality
We are already living in a world of illusions and one of the greatest illusions is the concepts and thoughts and the beliefs that we have about love and romance and soul mates. Does prince charming really exist or is he just an illusion we have created? Is there a beautiful princess waiting for us or have we just invented her in the books and films to remind us of something? And what is that ‘something’ anyway? And the biggest question of them all – if all our notions and ideas about love are merely an illusion, then what is the real reality?
Well, TrueLove is the real reality. Only we do not perceive it yet.
When we fall in love we feel the excitement running through our veins, we blush, we smile, we laugh, some of us even cry and suddenly we realize how the world is beautiful and safe. Sometimes we lose that love but then we gather back our strengths and based on past warm and joyous memories, we try to fall in love again. We date, we connect with people, we use the means of modern technology, and we ask dear aunts and caring friends to set us up with someone to find love. It seems that a loving relationship is the heart’s desire of most people on earth no matter how rich, successful or healthy they are. As long as they lack a loving mate next to them or someone to spend the moments of eternity together, they do not feel happy. This is indeed the power of Love; the regular love.
Those of us who do not have a romantic spouse wonder ‘when will it happen to me?’ and ‘when will I be lucky too?” In their more desperate moments, when the doubt and fear crawl out they cry, “what is wrong with me?” And exactly right here, in these precious and stormy moments that are always followed by the quiet inner void, the voice of another form of Love can be heard, the sound of TrueLove.
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The voice of True Love
TrueLove is the reality outside the glass. TrueLove is the place where we all come from and will journey to after we are out of the world of illusion. TrueLove does include regular love with its promising fairy-tales and “happily ever after” kind of lives. TrueLove is the most romantic relationship we could ever fathom for ourselves and beyond that, one that even supersedes our wildest childhood dreams – TrueLove is all that and much more.
It is not a place of nirvana, not at all. The meeting with our "Godly Father", a meeting that TrueLove provides in due time for each and every one of us, is the pinnacle of our expressive human abilities and our creativity in multifaceted ways on this plane of existence. Our desired TrueLove brings us a rich and abundant life, full of service to our fellow humans accompanied by a magical harmony and balance between our needs and those of the world.
TrueLove is a vision and a reality at the same time. TrueLove is a specific individual and the essence of life - all at the same time. TrueLove is the reunion between the human and the higher and much more expanded consciousness who sustains him.
How to get there?
How do we find that place beyond the glass that we live in? How do we create the relationship with that higher part; with ourselves? Crying, just as praying, surely, doesn’t help. We have tried it since always. Shouting and fighting only bring wars, sorrow, and despair. There must be another way, a contemporary one that is suitable for the human race in its present state, not as it was 6000 years ago when Buddha walked on the planet, neither in the times of Christ.
The current human society is very analytical. We process everything through and with our brains. The things that are real for us are only those things that are grasped by our senses and minds. What we cannot feel does not exist. Therefore, the way to connect with our TrueLove kingdom also has to be by using our minds as the main accessory. At least to begin with.
And the path, though not necessarily easy, is still quite simple. For if we know that the TrueLove reality already exists, we only need to change our perspective, to conceive it and then to bring it over here. The way to do that is a three-layered pathway.
- First, there is the processing phase in which we use our minds to examine our daily behavior and modify it accordingly to certain requirements that match TrueLove’s own features.
- The second phase is the releasing by letting go of the old paradigms of thoughts and systems of living that we have adopted since we were born;
- and the third phase is the integration, whose outcome is the complete reunion with Our TrueLove, in flesh and spirit.
There is nothing to actively DO in the outer reality since the process is of the mind and soul. There is no one holy place to go to in anticipation of experiencing the divine. There are no particular people to meet or specific books to read. No money is required to be spent on the path towards TrueLove. It is a path for all who desire and choose it, wherever they are and whichever life-circumstances they find themselves in. Age, social status or race are elements of no importance.
For Indeed, TrueLove Is Now!