Sometime you need to walk up to a mirror and see yourself, have a good look. Then close your eyes, imagine yourself again. When youre eyes are closed and your imagination comes to work, you imagine yourself as what you actually want to be. Open your eyes again and see, if theres a difference between the person you saw with your eyes open and the person you saw with your eyes closed, then theres a problem. You need to work hard and achieve whatever your imagination showed you in order to get satisfied. No, this isnt some kind of profiling or a standard that you say youre doing it for the people, youre doing it for yourself for your own soul your satisfaction. Sometimes being selfish is fine to the extent where your improve and hurt nobody in the process.