Pre-marital sex is simply sexual intercourse before marriage. Many won't like my stance. But it is a personal opinion which may be different from what you believe.
Sex before marriage is a consequence of pre-marital romantic relationship. It is detestful to everyone except the perpetrator, it is unholy, inappropriate whichever way you choose to look at it. Exuberance, experimentation, inquisitiveness and disobedience are responsible for the high rate of pre-marital sex.
Who approves premarital sex? No significant person or persons do that. We can look at persons who disapprove sex outside and sex before marriage. Everybody.
It may surprise you to hear that everybody loathes and disapproves premarital sex. But that is true. People choose to be indifferent and passive about it, force themselves to look the other way, and pretend it is not their business.
Let's carefully examine those who do not support premarital sex, and they are:
*Parents: No parents suggest or approve premarital sex for their kids. It is irritating when parents discover their yet to marry child, the age does not matter, is having premarital sexual relationship. Though they may choose to be silent about it, that does not mean they approve it.
Religion: I am yet to see a religion that allows sexual immorality. All religion I know condemn sex before marriage. Though they may be unable to implement it successfully amongst their youth population. But that does not in anyway suggest they approve it.
Sibblings: sibblings many attimes develop strong hatred for any man making advances to their sisters. It is usually interpreted in a way that depicts that the man in question is trying to take advantage of their sister.
Now the question is, who does approve sex before marriage. If parents do not, siblings do not, and religions do not, who does?
Only the perpetrator who is under youthful pressure, whose mind is corrupted by what he sees and hears, and now translated into feelings and uncontrollable desire. Only him/her, no other person.
Consequences of Pre-marital Sex
It delays marriage. A man you are already sleeping with may not be in a haste to marry you.
It promotes divorce. Those who had strong sexual experiences may likely quit their marriage if their partner cannot meet up with their previous sexual experiences
It may result to unwanted pregnancy. With this, many will resort to abortion which is offensive to man and God however you look at it, however you rationalise it, however you justify it.
It results to rapid spread of STI. However one tries to protect himself or herself, contracting diseases and infections is inevitable. Contact with the surroundings of the genital organ, mouth to mouth contact, touching with bare hand etc are enough to expose one to bacteria, fungi other skin and oral diseases.
It results to poor academic performance. You mustn't believe, but it is true. Students on campus, even those in high schools always experience relationship problems. This problem devastates and makes them lose focus.
How To Alleviate and Finally Overcome Pre-marital Sex
- Avoid discussions that promotes premarital sex
Avoid reading romantic novels
Avoid watching romantic and pornographic films and pictures.
Expunge your mind of thoughts capable of stimulating you sexual feelings. Difficult right? It is possible with the help of next point
Avoid being alone unless when sleeping. Staying and engaging people can redirect your mind.
Put your mind and all your being in what you do, focus to be productive in what you do, other things will start losing influence.
Avoid staying with an opposite sex whom you have feelings for in a secluded place
Hope these little tips will be of help.
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