"How can you be single and living alone?" He asked with an obvious look of utter disgust.
For a moment I was silent as the pain of my predicament(remind me to tell you about my life shattering experience) came rushing back.
Living alone as a #singlewoman is just too much for my society to handle. I guess it's typically African. But I felt different. My being refused to agree. I thought it said;
I'm strong
I am able
I'm independent
I'm in control of my life
I can handle the bills
I need my space
I'm my own boss
I CAN DO BAD ALL BY MYSELF(well,not literally!)
Our society places the girl child on the "needy" stand. So if you are not living with your parents,it should at least be a man's house! Lol.
A woman must be #dependent.
The #Africangirl is the #controlledchild. Don't quote me wrong...we all need a lil bit of that but what I really mean is, single women living alone tend to pass for "Free women" or prostitutes where I come from... Society made it so. Even more weird is how successfully society has brainwashed the girl child into believing they are a dependent species!
I remember when my Ex husband drove me out of his house swearing I will suffer!😂 When asked by the church why he didn't go get me,he said it was coz I had moved from my mum's and was already renting my own house!😂😂😂...(details on why and how I moved on another day!)
But yes, most single ladies living alone can be judged on all levels of #weird.
While some think it's because you don't want to be controlled,others tag it to believing you are a superior being.
There definitely needs to be a rebranding of the #Africangirl... one that doesn't make her a victim of her age, maturity or financial independence. One that shows her her unlimited possibilities. One that isn't tagged to a man's success story.
It not being uncontrollable
NO!
Maybe they just need their space 🤦!
...So I smiled and replied
" Any man who thinks being an #independentwoman makes me a #threat, falls below the belts of true manhood... ".
Accolades to every young #singlewoman who's got her sh*t together and is soaring!
Life is for the living beautiful sister... You are enough.
THE REST WILL CATCH UP!!
#CozBeeSaidSo!