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Have you been angry recently because you are not getting enough SBDs from your upvotes? Or value for the time you have put into steemit?
Did somebody yell at you?
Did your boyfriend get you pissed when you read through his text messages?
Do you fume when someone cuts you off in traffic? Does your blood pressure rocket when your child refuses to cooperate?
It actually takes a long while to get on my nerves. But today I think it was pretty fast to do that.
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This post I am about to make is my class note for the Wednesday's discussion on
Do you have a natural temper problem? We can discuss it today at 5.30pm
Anger is completely normal, it is an emotion that goes along with the 3F hormones (fight, flight, and fear)
PHYSIOLOGICALLY
- Anger protects the organism to survive a physical threat.
- Anger uses high levels of metabolism where energy is the major function of the body.
The body interprets the signal as this ...”How do I get this organism to survive for the next few mins”?
Anger is inevitable, even the world greatest person has an anger episode sometimes.
Will punching a wall really calm you down?
Will smashing a plate solve the problem at hand?
ANGER MANAGEMENT
Anger is not the display of superiority, it is not a way of telling people that you are right or wrong.
Not suppressing or bottling up your anger will lead to a backflow, imagine constantly pumping a balloon until it exceeds its elastic limit, the balloon will start to leak in bits and may lead to a big burst. This burst doesn’t occur with the person that fueled the anger. It is usually an innocent person that gets it all.
GREAT HINTS TO SUCCESSFULLY MANAGE YOUR ANGER.
HINT 1: Find out what makes you angry.
Angry people can take a pause and find out what makes them angry. Sometimes a mental note could help them to become aware of what really causes their anger
In order to express your anger in appropriate ways, you need to be in touch with what you are really feeling. Is your anger masking other feelings such as embarrassment, insecurity, hurt, shame, or vulnerability?
HINT 2: Know your anger warning /trigger signs.
The ability to be aware of what makes you angry was the first step and a great hint. When you have a mental picture of what makes you angry, you can then watch out for the warning signs of your anger.
There could be different signs of anger in different people e.g. fast heartbeats, headaches, red eyes The ability to detect and decipher your anger emotions represents a basic aspect of emotional intelligence, as it makes other processing of emotional information possible.
Identify the negative thought patterns that trigger your temper
Hint 3: Learn ways to cool down.
Once you know how to recognize the warning signs that your temper is rising and anticipate your triggers, you are already on top of your game.
Quick tips for cooling down.
- Exercise your muscle-. A brisk walk around the block can help lighten your mood and suppress the anger.
Take some deep breaths. Deep, slow breathing helps counteract rising tension. You can practice deep breaths for about 2-3mins to ease the anger.
Use your senses. Studies show that the frontal lobe of the brain that is involved in planning, judgment etc. sometimes doesn’t make the best decisions when we are angry, therefore, when we are angry, we can use our other senses to help cope in that situation. The ability to detect and detect emotions of others in faces, pictures, and voices will help to keep our anger in check.
relax your muscle, unclench your fist, and loosen up
Slowly count to ten. Always helps when we are tensed
Give yourself a reality check
When you start getting upset about something, take a moment to think about the situation. Ask yourself:
• Is it really worth getting angry about it?
• Is it worth ruining the rest of my day?
• Is it worth the whole stress?
• Is there any other way to go about it?
• Is it really worth the whole trouble?
HINT 4: Find healthier ways to express your anger.
If you’ve decided that the situation is worth getting angry about and there’s something you can do to make it better, the key is to express your feelings in a healthy way. When communicated respectfully and channeled effectively, anger can be a tremendous source of energy and inspiration for change.
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There are two ways of this
- Healthy containment- When you are angry, try not to suppress or bottle it, because it will definitely escape. You can notify the other person that you are in a bad mood. And ask for permission to express your anger. You can also give a time limit in case you exceed the duration and the person can help calm you down
- Healthy expressions- There are subtle ways of expressing anger, usually the physical outburst is obvious, but constant self-criticism is not healthy (you may be depressed), you can harm yourself on the long run.
Identifying the real source of frustration will help you communicate your anger better, take constructive action, and work towards a resolution.
Conflicts are inevitable, Conflicts are possibilities in every healthy relationship but conflict resolution depends on mutual understanding between both parties. We have to choose our battles wisely.
Hint 5: Know when to seek help from a professional.
If you anger is still not checked by the above methods, then it’s time to seek professional help. There are a lot of centers where you could seek such help from. Do not let anger affect your physical and emotional health. A professional will help solve your anger issues
Anger could be your friend if you want it to be. Anger can motivate you to create great change. Angry people make riskier decisions and they regret later. When next you get angry please remember these three things
- Do not harm yourself
- Do not harm others
- Do not damage property.
This video says it all, in case the lecture got some readers angry at the length.
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REFERENCES.
https://www.helpguide.org/articles/relationships-communication/anger-management.htm
https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/adult-health/in-depth/anger-management/art-20045434
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