Nobody wakes up in the morning and says, hey life, bring on the suffering! we all do wake up hoping to experience happiness in everything we do as the day progresses. But life happens at the end of the day. Some may be lucky to be happy, but it may be a bad day for others. Life is not a bed of roses afterward.
plenty of people miss their share of happiness, not because they never found it, but because they didn’t stop to enjoy it
William Feather.
Have you paused to take note of those small things that make you happy? Well, happiness is a relative term, but everybody gets a prescription for happiness in life. Even the person who commits suicide is also looking for a way out to end his suffering or sorrows.
I remember how I was happy when I joined steemit, I think was also happy when I was graduating from school.
The truth is this, Every human faces setbacks at certain points in their lives, and these setbacks may have an influence on their happiness or mood. The ability of our mind to regulate these setbacks would eventually determine our state of happiness.
Reports have shown that the levels of happiness are relatively same for men and women, happiness doesn’t vary with climate, race, and age lol. So if our present state of mind is the only determinant of our happiness, then we ought to improve our mind training.
So why are some people unhappy despite having made all the riches in life? While others are happy despite the very little they have..Have you bothered to ask?
Well, Its observed that the more successful you get, the more control you seek, maybe that’s why successful people are not happy afterward.
The world has actually two sets of people. I am sure you thought I was going to say the happy people and the sad people lol. Well, you were quite close.
The world actually contains those people who try to take control of everything in their lives, they try to predict and alter the natural state of things and they are unhappy when it doesn’t go as they had it planned. The other group of people is those that are contented with whatever life offers to them. They prepare for the worst and hope for the best in life.
Do you know that Having control over everything in life is not a guarantee of happiness? Even as a human being, we love uncertainty, we do not like the routine way of doing things, we are happier when we are taken by surprise than when we are in the know of the situation at hand.
Life by default is uncertain, you must have understood by now that anything is possible in life, a nobody can be a somebody tomorrow and vice versa.
It is not certain that everything in life is uncertain.
Blaise Pascal
So How do We Increase Our Happiness Chances Everyday?
Well, there are no hard and fast rule as I would say, but if you can follow these simple tips, then your happiness should be a little more assured.
Be good to yourself
I am sure by now you are already asking how you could be good to yourself lol. Well, the answer is not far fetched . have you ever heard this ‘ before you can love others, you must first of all love yourself? If you practice self-love, then you should be happier with your self as the day goes by.
Staying healthy is the most important way to be happy. You have to physically, mentally and socially healthy for you to be happy in life. This obviously includes eating the right diet, having an adequate sleep.( a recommended 7-9 hours of sleep should suffice for an adult)
when you sleep less than 6hrs, you are 30% less happy that day
Making uncertainty your friend is the biggest and best secret to becoming happy in life.
Life has a way of presenting uncertainties in the form of high pressured situations to us, the example of these situations are meeting tight deadlines, dealing with challenging relationships, dealing with setbacks and failure etc.
These are uncertainties that are inevitable in life. We have to learn how to predict them, understand them and manage them appropriately. Uncertainties could stress us out if not handled well. When we are on top of our game, then we will always smile at the end of the day.
The ability to control other negative emotions
Anger, hatred, jealousy arrogance would not leave us in such a good state after we have experienced them, and they are also detrimental to our happiness and even the happiness of others. Our ability to keep these negative emotions in check with the basic knowledge of emotional intelligence is a vital key to a happy life. We have to be proactive always.
Do the things you are good at with joy.
We are happy when we do the little things that we are good at, e.g some of us are good at creating apps, some are good at writing blogs, some are good at playing video games etc( these are some of the things I'm good at, so don’t be angry at my examples). When you identify these things that you are good at and practice it daily, then your happiness would be guaranteed daily.
Surround yourself with the right people at the right time.
It recommended to have at least 3 close friends whom you can count on, for every new friend you make, your happiness increases by 15%. The more we connect with people, the higher chances we get at finding the solution to our daily problems. A man was designed to be a social animal and not live in isolation after all.
We can spend 4years on a course, we go to the gym to build our muscles, but surprisingly, we spend little time to take care of what matters the most- our happiness. .Whatever we do, whatever we hope, whatever dreams we have in life is related to our desire to be happy. Life is a choice between two wrongs, choose the one that makes you happier.
Whatever life throws at you, catch it and play accordingly.
