Love is a beautiful thing; it is not different from the other emotions (grief, fear, anxiety) we experience in our daily lives. These emotions have rules of engagement so love should not be left out.
Remember, it’s a good thing to fall in love; I made a post about the health benefits of falling in love ,You can check it out. With the right knowledge about love, we can get anybody we like to fall in love with us.
If you could improve your chances of getting what you have always desired? Would you capture it or let it slip?
Everybody in life is a unique being from different background, with different personalities, beliefs, needs, life experiences. All these life vagaries help to shape and transform us into who we are in life.
You would agree with me that everyone has a mental picture of his/her dream girl/guy with top-notch qualities that they desire in them e.g. Tall , handsome, good looking dude with a good sense of humor , great personality, dark in complexion for the ladies. For the guys, their dream girl should have a good shape, be caring, be beautiful etc…
Well do you know that some other humans are extra selective based on their beliefs, life experiences, bias and needs and they have this "mental check list" that psychologist call “LOVEMAP” embedded in their subconscious mind , which is on auto-search for anybody that could fit in.
Every day, the brain processes the information in the check list and pops up results which are similar to the search in the fields required.
It’s not strange to see two love birds walking on the street these days, these people must have met the criteria in their check list and decided to give #LOVE a chance.
HOW CAN YOU MAKE SOMEBODY "FALL IN LOVE WITH YOU.".
IMPROVE ON YOUR SELF
Charity they say begins at home. I am sure by now; you must have come up with your check list already. You have to sit back and check if you actually meet into those “strict” criteria you made up, and be honest about it. You can work to improve your areas of inadequacies. This will automatically increase your chances of meeting "the one" that falls in this criteria of yours.
Also remember to brand yourself to increase your visibility potentials to suitors that might be interested. This may include trying to keep fit by visiting the gym, wearing clean clothes, improving on your self esteem and confidence , having a good body hygiene etc
Studies have shown that it takes about 1/5 (0.2) seconds to fall in love. This could help to understand the “love at first sight” phenomenon. What happens in this is the brain matches your love map you embedded in its sub conscious with a result and chemistry takes place.
If you were successful in eliciting a chemistry for each other, viola! cos your love journey just started.
SET UP A DATE
There is no hard and fast rule about dating. It varies in approaches in different climes and parts of the world.
In the African tradition, the lady would wait for the guy to make the first move, Well the guy might have other distractions too, some(ladies) maybe hell bent on achieving a similar goal, so if you sit on the fence as a lady and wait for him to take the bold step, another girl may just step into the picture and you would be friend zoned automatically.
If we really like something, sometimes we just got to put in extra efforts to acquire it.
Ok, I was talking about the dating, fast forward to the date; this is the best time to sell yourself to the other person and hope the person buys your package. Life is all about packaging.
How would you sell yourself? Remember that checklist of yours in your love map; this is the time to discuss it with your date. This is the time to be the "real you", you can talk about your likes, dislikes, past dates,beliefs etc. make the date interesting for each other such that each of you long to have another time to discuss .
BONDING.
If she liked what you sold to her, there is a 75% probability that she would fall for you. Remember, I said probability lol. Well if she falls, then both of you really need to work hard to bond.
Bonding is just a way of validating the love and maintaining a close relationship. In this case, it may even involve sharing intimate feelings with someone in “an appropriate relationship”
There are several ways to achieve this e.g. verbal dialogue which involves calling to ask how he/she is doing, calling to express your love, and calling to apologize for a slight mishap etc.
Bonding could also involve mastery of behavioral patterns e.g., eye contact, knowing when to hug, arm around shoulders etc.
Bonding I must say is the most important part of the love mission.
PREPARING FOR EMOTIONAL FRICTIONS .
There is no stable system in the world; humans could change over time because of different factors. The ability to identify these factors and stay on top of the game will determine if the relationship will continue or not.
You can read my post on how to maintain an emotional balance to have an insight.
Be emotionally available at all times, before subjecting a fellow to falling for you, you have to be prepared to shoulder the emotional responsibilities of love. You cannot be in love and be flirting with other girls and expect things to be cool. It’s always ideal to think about the goals and motives before embarking on the love journey.
Your ability to stay proactive and maintain your cool could just be what could save the day. Have a rethink about this!
TRY TO KEEP THEM IN LOVE.
You might be lucky to fall in love, but if you are not lucky, you can “fall out of love”. The ability to stay in love is an art, which requires special mastery of the skill lol. Little things matter in every relationship, you have to learn how not to take each other for granted.
Spending quality time with each other is very necessary to stay in love, remember this is when to even go on more dates, go on adventure trips and try something different from the usual. Any of you can surprise each other with gifts, knowledge, experiences etc. You have already known what he/she likes so you are in the better position to make it rain...
Falling in love is a heavy emotional investment which could be likened to the sensation someone gets from cocaine, when the transactions are made it affects the entire make up of a human. It hurts to love and not be loved back, but with this little tips, you can influence the person to fall in love with you.
Disclaimer.
You can use this post as your love guide at your own discretion! It is not a love recommendation…