Great article Larken. I have taken to notice this exact sentiment as well as I spent most of my childhood like you achieving the approval of my authority figures through obedient actions. Post graduation I had many of the same people who looked at obedience as uncool were complementing my ultimate statist move of joining the military. It seems the statist understanding of responsibility is akin to a responsibility to the group completely abandoning the responsibility to oneself. Hence, the underlining resentment that many statist display. The claim of "growing up" reeks of it.