If your experiences talking to girls are not good, sometimes you tell about your favorite subjects, your visiting to doctor, or any interesting topic, and then it's all over. You begin to stroke your fingers as she stare at the ground in strange moments of silence. Do not feel shy about it, and do not get upset. All the young people have passed this stage without a doubt. It's okay if your recent conversations with girls are not as great as what you might read on social networking pages or what happens in love films and emotional relationships. But you have to be ready for the next time now, make the effort and know the right ways to do it, so that you capture the heart of the person you talk to.
1 . Start with a simple topic
The first time you talk to a girl, you have to choose a soft subject so that you can talk together without getting any strange or annoying to either of you. Do not tell her about the strange things that happen to you, or about the rash in your back !. Do not ask her about the most special things or the moments when she felt embarrassed and so on. You have to postpone those discussions for later. Stick to common and light topics that allow you to have an enjoyable conversation without the girl being embarrassed or uncomfortable.
Some safe and fun topics that you can start talking about:
Favorite bands
Movies you've watched recently
Pets
Brothers and Relatives
The activities you took last weekend, and the plans for next week
Plans for the next vacation
2 . Avoid personal topics
Of course you aspire to the moment when you can talk to her deeply and closely, but that will happen after the girl gets to know you more. For now, it's best to avoid talking to her about personal matters: such as deaths, first love stories, strange illness, or existential matters: your fear of death. If you feel that you have a chance to communicate with them, you may be able to skip short conversations faster to important topics.
3 . Smile.
Keeping a smile on your face and positive actions will attract the girl's attention and make her more willing to continue talking to you. Of course, it is not meant to smile until your senses are numb, but to smile whenever possible. This will show the girl that you love talking to her and will leave a positive impact. You may be so nervous that you forget to put smiles on your face while talking, so be careful to control it.
4 . Visual communication.
Making visual communication is very important so that the girl feels important and that you are interested in what you say. You may feel ashamed to talk to her and you may end up staring at your feet or looking around you, just because you are afraid to look her eyes. You should try to get rid of it as much as possible. You do not have to communicate with her with strong, emotional eyes all the time while you are talking together or you will feel strange. It is meant to look at her eyes, whenever possible, during her conversation until you feel interested in what she says.
5 . ask questions.
You can show her how much you care about her by asking questions, whether those are questions about her personally, about the topics she talks about, or about what she's doing in her life in general. The questions are not intended to be particularly private. You have to make enough effort to show that you are trying to identify them more and more. It is the magical key to making the girl feel important and has special value for you. If you do not respond to your questions properly, or ask questions in return, you will have to stop asking questions for a while. You should not feel that she is in the case of questioning.
6 . Compliment and praise.
After you talk for a while, you can begin to use some sentences of praise and courtesy to her person, spontaneously and simply, so that she feels appreciated and respected by you. You do not have to say that in an exaggerated way or say what you really do not mean. You can admire her new clothes or hair story. You can also show your respect for a particular character. Do not exceed your limits as well, as if you admire her foot or her leg! It will make her uncomfortable.