Late at night, the sound of the plane rumbling outside the window, this is the last flight, usually this point, the seven elder brothers will turn off the lights ready to crawl to sleep, when the computer is turned off, suddenly saw a reader's message "seven elder brothers, in a panic, good sad." I sat up again.
The reader was called Happy Little Radish, but she wasn't happy that night. After I saw her mood description, I subconsciously wanted to comfort her. Her affair may seem simple to others, breaking up with her boyfriend after the conflict broke out, but for the client, it's enough to manipulate her whole mood and brain.
That night I accompanied her, first chatting with words, and then disrelishing the slow typing, directly opened the voice, sobbing, crying, from the movie chat to the news, from hobby chat to life, do not know how long, she began to laugh "seven elder brothers thank you, the mood is better, I also want to start a lot of things."
It was three o'clock in the morning. When I heard her laughing, I felt like I was a fighter fighting her bad mood. I won, so I hung up my voice and fell asleep exhausted.
I don't know why so stubborn to comfort a girl in a bad mood, maybe I also understand that kind of heartplug, pain, want to tell the feeling. So people often tease me, why are you so warm for all readers, warm like central air conditioning ah.
Four years ago, when I broke up with my first love, I was happily in despair for the first time, and panic, chest tightness, uneasiness, and fear came along, because I had so few sad experiences before, that I didn't know how to deal with my mood and situation, and my mood was on the verge of collapse.
At that time, I met Li Xiaojian, the noble person of life, she took me to KTV singing, I first wanton cry, cry to tired, cry to convulsion, paralysis, that look ugly and ugly, but only she saw, cried tired I went back to the dormitory to sleep, Li Xiaojian bought me dinner, and then accompanied me to run, eat, study...
In this way, depressed for a long time soon depressed me, finally out of the first circle, slowly my life began to get on track. Later, I realized that when you were in despair, there was someone who gave you a little star, even a match star, enough to light up your future. So every time a reader is upset, I will put down my work to help.
This is the first time that I've been told a little bit of my lovelorn story in a public address, and I'm sure everyone in life will inevitably experience a bad mood of sadness, panic and uneasiness. For example, he was reprimanded by his supervisor at work, plotted by his colleagues, quarreled with his partner in the relationship, and separated by the other party, quarreled with his parents in the family, and was not understood by his family, disagreed with his roommates in the school, and was excluded by his roommates...
Many times, these not beautiful moods will leave a shadow, affecting our future life, serious and even make you become inferior, lack of character, self-confidence frustrated, self-esteem, self-protection consciousness, emotional sensitivity, vulnerability and so on.
Therefore, when a bad mood comes, we should learn to coax ourselves. Of course, the bad mood is mainly caused by the external things that affect your mood. So, when your brain does not think about things that affect your emotions, your subjective emotions will not go down.
Seven brothers here, a few strokes, Huai mood to how to coax themselves?
1, crying is good cry, the best unscrupulous.
When we encounter bad things in the workplace, in our studies, in our relationships, in our emotions, we feel sad mostly because we are wronged, depressed, and even if you have no opportunity to explain, there is no room for manoeuvre at all.
So you should find a place to cry well, put all the discontent, complaints in tears, go to the unscrupulous cry, cry to no longer cry. Think of this crying as a dividing line in life, dry your tears after crying, self-suggestion, from today on, that's not the case.
2, talk to good friends.
Sometimes, crying is not enough. Because some of the sadness you do not want to understand, the authorities are obsessed, and even you grievances no one understands, so you urgently need a person who understands you, it is best to talk to your best friend, as a vent of emotion.
Remember, it must be the best friend, the person who knows your heart best, can't find it, remember to find my brother, back-office message or micro-blog private letter. If you are with friends in general, others do not necessarily sympathize with you, or even will treat your experience as a joke, cynical. Therefore, it is important for a friend to know a confidant when he is in danger.
3, running fitness, doing housework, washing clothes... Divert attention
To tell you the truth, why did the seven elder brothers suddenly write this topic today, because today the seven elder brothers chat with good friends, inadvertently provoked the other side angry, the other side ignored, so sad, went downstairs to run, plugged earphones listening to songs, as if the world was isolated, anyway, mood temporarily better...
Talking about running fitness... It's because these ways can transfer your attention to a great extent. Let you do not want to worry about things, or even do not understand. Chen Erer said that since she went to exercise, her mood gradually improved.
4, the big deal is eating, drinking, playing, enjoying, buying.
Often people will say, I want to travel to relax, indeed, travel can be open-minded, walking may be you will understand some of the truth, can not solve the matter is relieved.
We often choose to drink a little wine, the same is true, in fact, wine will not let you forget anything, but self-suggestion, by drinking to alleviate anxiety, this is a psychological effect, but very useful.
The young man lived very close to brother seven. Every time he asked me, where did you go? I said, four benefits. He said, drink something in the evening. I know he must be in a bad mood. Usually, we do not talk about annoying things, bragging about blind comparison, a few drinks down the stomach, the same mood will be better.
Many of my friends are in a bad mood, so they eat, buy, buy and buy...... I think the method is not bad. Eating on your own will alleviate the depression caused by bad mood, and buying will allow new pleasure satisfaction to cover the negative mood before.
Remember to read this sentence: angry is a person's torture of their own, negative bad mood will cause psychological and physical overuse, resulting in decreased immunity.
People live in the world, the five are mixed. Therefore, coaxing oneself is an important technical work, its essence should be not to practice oneself, do not waste oneself, love one's own performance, only to be good to oneself, in order to let others love you more.