You're not that attractive.
I mean, take away whatever good grooming, put you in bad lighting, and slap a big nasty frown on your face instead of a smile, and no matter how classically good-looking you might normally be considered you're unlikely to turn too many heads - at least not in a good way.
I guess what I'm trying to say is that no one wakes up a perfect 10. It might surprise you to know that there are few things you can do that will put there or near there. And it might surprise you even more to learn that they have almost nothing to do with changing yourself physically or grooming-wise.
Here are the things people can do to make you nearly instantly attracted to them:
1.) Touch and Proximity
Several studies have been released over the years connecting touch with attractiveness. Everything from a light graze to a hug or a touch on the shoulder will make you feel more attracted to the person doing so. Of course, you can use this to your advantage as well by throwing out light touches here and there on your next date, maybe starting things off with a hug, putting your hand on the small of her back to guide her through a door, or lightly touching her elbow while you speak with her.
If you're a girl, then simply being nearer to a guy can make you far more attractive. Of course, light touches on the arm can also help create chemistry and rapport.
2.) Time
When people talk about time, they tend to think of it as much of an aphrodisiac. But as it turns out, the more time you spend with someone, the more attractive they'll become.
So if you really want to form a connection with someone... spend time with them. Go figure, huh?
3.) Be Won Over
Another study had participants overhear a conversation (by researchers in disguise) in which they were spoken of in three different ways. The first way was that the researcher spoke of them positively. The second was that the researcher started off speaking of them positively, but ended speaking about them negatively. The last is that the researcher began speaking negatively, but ended speaking about the participant positively.
Can you guess which made the researcher the most likable?
Yep. Participants listed the researcher who spoke negatively but ended by liking them much better than the other two groups, with participants liking the group that spoke positively of them in general second most.
So, these three things might help in your interactions with friends or on your next date. Of course, let's be sure not to forget that good grooming and basic hygiene. People tend to be real sticklers about that.
