In my own opinion, "I believe that women are much crueler to each other than men" but someone out there reading this right now might want to justify themselves and say they were never rude to anyone. I am actually generalizing the notion because i know that we still have genuine , kind-hearted women and beutiful women out there. But that is not the issue on ground. Good woman or not, I am still of a strong opinion that women generally hate women.
Any woman reading this right now would certainly agree to the fact that at one point or the other, she was either a bully or was bullied. Using my sister as an example, she also have a share of bullied moments. I was opportuned to read her diary some days ago. She wrote that "while in the university, i was awkwardly slimmer than most girls and i usually dressed funny. I was mostly on long flay skirt, combined with a flashy coloured big dress. I became the center of attention anywhere i got to. I thought if i tried to be less attractive, i would not get in the way of the slay queens because i was so cute and innocent and i will not have to be in any business with anyone. But the way i was, made it easier for them to see and bully me."
The major thing about women is that they fight for approval even if the last option is fighting with each other. When something tickles their fancy, they run right to it to attack. They do everything humanly possible to boost their own egos and they forget that what they are feeding on is other womens' self esteem.
They have made it look as if it is natural fot women to be cattish against each other. I ask my self these questions?
- What is the competition and fighting all about? Or
- What is the causative agent behind women hating on each other?
Believe me, i have discovered the answer to this question is actually there, just that they are too scared to admit the fact. In the society we find ourselves now, it seems like success attained by a woman is not success enough without beauty and looks. They feel inferior when they see women prettier, slimmer and generally better than them. It may sound petty or shallow, but it is the whole truth. Clouded with insecurity & self doubt, they begin to hate on each other secretely or even being cruel to her openly.
I am neither of the opinion that women with good looks are to be blamed nor am i trying to say the actions of women who makes other women lives miserable is a good thing. The point is that whey they have reached that stage of their lives when they finlly accept beauty and the diversity and individuality of it, when they accept their wrong doings or flaws and elevate the things that makes them worthy, loved, important and when we clear out the assumption that our physical looks are things that makes us successful, maybe then women would stop hating on eachother.
Imagine the things women could acieve if only they loved themselves more, if only the society did not dictate the image of what beauty should look like, if only women will treat themselves fairly. If all this can come in place, then you must agree with me that the world would be a better place to be. I am very glad to have met some good women on steemit.
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