No. Sometimes YOU need to think about "future.."... As long as YOU are thinking about what YOU need to take care of.. Trusting yourself.. Allow others to trust themselves. The person you are talking about is a grown man - very capable of making his own decisions free of any advice he's not paying you to give him. I'm glad to hear that you are making your way in your life no matter your circumstance.
RE: Modern day palace in the sky