What do you think about premarital sex? Here is my thoughts on that!
The traditional society laid down an unspoken rule that couples do not have sex before marriage, for two reasons:
- Want to protect the health of the couple because they can not find a way to prevent pregnancy or prevent sexually transmitted diseases. Also to avoid the occurrence of unwanted pregnancies when neither side has. Official binding.
Ethical Conception :The fact that boys and girls preserve the innocence of one another expresses the purity of the soul, the virtue of love, the desire to control the purity of the body in marriage, Show respect and loyalty to your partner.
In today's modern society, contraception and the prevention of sexually transmitted diseases are made effective by medical advances. However, the moral conception mentioned above still exists and is respected by society.
So whether sex before marriage or not depends on whether the moral notion of old is still valid in modern society today. Some supporters of the retention of morality in the past thought that:
- If we do not honor the body of the lover can not respect his soul. Loving one another is respectful, keeping one's virginity pure until the day of marriage. Our bodies have sacred and private places, we do not want anyone to touch, beyond belief, want to live a lifetime, all life. The son respects the girl he loves, will be happy long. The girl who preserves virginity, that is, virtue, will be happy for long lasting.
Permission to have sex before marriage will promote the desire to take over the body and make true love shake. Then, the rate of broken up in love rising, the disorder and sexual intercourse more and more popular, the faith is increasingly rare ... Premarital sex that sex off the price Divine treatment, making sex after marriage becomes empty, meaningless.
Others argue that this concept is no longer relevant in modern societies because:
- Sexual liberation can make society become disoriented only for those who have no restraint, and if the true love is sex or not, that is true love
This is a private matter, so individuals have the right to self-determination. If the two parties are willing to give each other the deepest, that is their right.
Premarital sex is a "cohabitation" step. Before putting pen to register marriage, the two sides have to know each other thoroughly, even in the story, to test the degree of harmony of each other, heart to say, happiness comes from love, but Sexual problems are also a serious problem.
In short, the nature of premarital sex is not bad, bad or not the reason for the action, the consequences or the effect it brings. If couples really love each other, want complete harmony in love, while being able to restrain, enough preventive skills, especially the two parties are completely agree and happy to come. With each other, coming together is the right of both parties. However, if a party is coerced, either physically or emotionally, or has left his or her wounds of outcast, creating a habit of tolerance, then the action is well worth the condemnation. . But in an oriental society like Vietnam, premarital sex is not encouraged. If possible, young people should not have sex any time soon, because in addition to the above reasons, it is a good way to lower your self-worth in the eyes of others. Eyes everyone and in their own eyes. No one despises a boy who restrains himself, people just blame the mullahs fly flying butterflies everywhere. No one despises a girl, naughty people easily make themselves into a public item. Note that in premarital sex, "giving" or not is a daughter's privilege. Girls who resolutely say no, boys do not do anything. Therefore, girls must be the "handle" in this story. Daughter must be aware that: keep yourself is also a happy! In order for that divine matter to be the one we love the most, the person we live the whole of our lives will be extremely happy and meaningful. And he will respect you more, his family will respect you more.
2.The need for modern virginity
The concept of virginity is a "fundamental" notion, which determines whether or not a premarital relationship takes place.
Asian. Virginity in traditional society
Tradition prescribes girls to retain virginity before returning to their husbands for three reasons:
Firstly, physiologicallyto protect the health of the husband (to avoid sexually transmitted diseases) and to prevent the girl from getting pregnant.
Second, keeping the husband shows the purity of the soul, the virtue of love, the desire to control the pure body in marriage, showing respect and loyalty to the husband. .
Third, in ancient societies respect male virgin girls, girls have to preserve to give the whole son rather than the opposite.
B.Virginity in modern society
These traditional values are of great value. However, in the age of feminism, all three reasons imply injustice, because men also have to express the desire of despotic desires, showing respect and loyalty to their partner, To protect the health of the girl, to be responsible when the girl is pregnant. Therefore, if a girl is required to keep a virgin, then the son must. If the son does not keep it, they have no right to ask the girl what they themselves do not have.
C.Does a girl lose her virginity before her husband's home is considered a "bad girl"?
Suppose if boys also have a concept called virginity, how many still remain in the marriage when they get married? If a daughter loses virginity, who took away the virginity? Why do not we ask the opposite question: does a boy take virginity of another girl before marrying the current girl who is considered a "bad boy"?
Saying that to see, virginity is not enough to conclude a person is naughty or good. If a guy has sex before marriage is not called a fake, the girl also. Want to evaluate the personality of a person is not worth or evaluate a lot of other things. Modern society needs a more open, tolerant view of the girl's virginity. The girl's virginity is not only in that tiny thin film, but "the virginity also has three or seven lines." A virginity does not speak to the value of the whole person. It does not take into account that sometimes the golden age of the girl is no longer for objective reasons such as sports, sports, not because of relationships.
If society is concerned about the virginity of the girl so society should also care so strict with the virginity of the son!
D. How does virginity act with love, with marriage?
Its role depends on the magnitude of the man's preconceptions of the word "virgin" in society. If a man considers it important, the virginity factor is more important in their sense of family well-being. If the man is open in acknowledging the problem, virginity does not play a role in family happiness. Virginity plays no role in family happiness, it only plays a role in the mind of a man.
However, let's reflect on one thing: the true happiness of a marriage depends on whether the wife is virgin or not?
If you like a book because of its content, would you throw it away if it detects a pierced page? I do not. Because the book has a lot of other things that I respect.
Hey. Modern men need a fair look
If the value of a woman lies only in virginity, who is robbing their so-called value? Why do not you condemn the robber who condemned the robber? Am I too injustice?
Love comes first or love comes after love. Do not stare at the virginity's loss but look at their love, look at their good moral values so that they decide to love...
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