Sometimes in life, I find myself having negative thoughts, and like the "world is ending" type of feelings. I am usually a very positive and motivational person who loves to spread positivity around me. But, every once in a while I get caught up in negative thinking which is hard to shake off. It is normal to get caught in such periods of our lives. It is not always easy to shake those thoughts away and soon one negative thought attracts more negativity into mine and our lives. I always wondered why this is happening? I mean if I aspire to be a positive person how do I get caught up in all of this negative thinking and emotions? Where did they all come from? And, why am I having a hard time getting rid of them or we have a hard time getting rid of those negative thoughts?
Emphatic Person
Well, what if I told you that most of the times the emotions we feel are really not our emotions? We tend to absorb the emotions of other people and happenings around us. They are really not our emotions, but they sure do feel like ours. Personally, for me, I found to be very confused during those times because sometimes I have no idea where these emotions came from. I know they are not representing me, and who I aspire to be as a person, but they are there inside me disturbing my peace.
The older I get the more I learn about myself and now I can safely say I can identify myself to be an emphatic person. I deeply feel others people emotions around me, and sometimes I know how a person feels with him even telling something is wrong. Not to brag or anything but a lot of times I can even feel how somebody is feeling with a simple text message, or by just looking at them. Even though that person is smiling and appears to be happy. I have surprised a lot of people with it. Telling them things about them which they feel, but not really expressing. Sometimes it is really weird for me how much my intuition about the person finds to be correct.
The Only Way To Be Positive, Is To Be Positive
I am very careful about how I approach the people about it. I never push them to open to me and talk about what is really bothering them and how they truly feel. Especially when it is not somebody I don't know very well. People who I know very well, and who know me very well now I ask them directly about it because I know it will not have a negative effect. And, if you are like me, first sometimes you can be wrong, and you trying to help can have an entirely negative effect on people.
You have to find a way through conversation to get them to open up to you by themselves. Also, sometimes people just don't want to talk about it as they think talking about makes them look weak. That is absolutely not true. Especially if you surrounded by the right people who don't judge, but they are there to listen and help if they can.
Talk About It, Free Yourself
Talking about it is a sign of strength, not weakness. Keeping it all inside you is not healthy for your mind, body, and soul. If you're surrounded by the right people let them in, talk about it, free yourself of those negative feelings. Get them out of your mind. Get that "rock" off your chest.FREE YOURSELF OF THE BURDEN.The sooner you do it, and talk about it, the sooner you will on your way to "recovery." The more you hold those negative thoughts inside you the more negativity you will attract to yourself. It is a simple law of attraction. The energy you are sending out into the world is the same energy you will get back. The only way to be POSITIVE is to be POSITIVE and think POSITIVE. Break free from the chains of negativity.
Ok, so what I am trying to tell you is that I absorb a lot of peoples energies around me which can be positive and unfortunately sometimes very negative. I am sure many of you do also without really knowing about it. Just as the energy can be transferred, so can the emotions as well. Even from a person to a person. So before you diagnose yourself as a negative person first make sure you are not surrounded by negative people, and negative surroundings in general. Because they could be the cause of the negativity in your life. Draining your energy, and preventing you from being the positive person you want to be.
How To Free Yourself From The Negativity?
So what to do now is probably what you are asking yourself? I can only speak from my personal experience and how I managed to control my negative periods in life. First thing I did was I found a quiet place just like I found one in this picture below. Every country I go to with basketball I found a similar place such as this one. A place where I can literally. "clear" my thoughts. I love the sea and the gorgeous Adriatic Sea sunsets. They calm me down and help me relax so I can think more clearly. Find your own place which has that calming and relaxing effect on you as well. You're own zen place so you can quiet your mind to hear your soul.
Breath through your nose while you are trying to "meditate", it helps with calming down. Deep breaths in, deep breaths out.Keep repeating, until you feel little more relaxed.***
I don't talk much or at all when I am there. I just think about all the thoughts running through my head. You can't control thoughts running through your thought train, but the more you "meditate", the more you will identify those negative thoughts which are not "yours". They have been transferred on to you by negative people and negative situations around you. How to identify those thoughts?
For me, it is simple. Once I calm down I think about the certain thought and I follow what my intuition or my soul is telling me. Usually, the first feeling you get from that specific thought is the correct one. Once you identify them you can acknowledge them and let them pass out of your mind. It is like finding a virus on your computer and turning on your anti-virus program to clean it out. Plus, you will know exactly from who those thoughts came from. Are their your thoughts or somebodies else's? Soon you will realize the world is not "coming to an end," it just a couple of negative thoughts.
Making The Sense Of It
At least, this is how I make sense of it. As I am not an expert in any sense of the way when it comes to these matters. All I know this method helps me clear my mind of negative thoughts. The more I have done this the easier it got, and I was able to identify those negative people who "corrupt" my mind and my peace. What you do when you find out who they are is entirely up to you. For me, most of them are not a part of my life anymore. I could not control what they say or do, but I can control if they will stay part of my life or, not. The ones who are still part of my life bring way more positivity in my life than their negative periods. Are some people worth the negativity in your life? That is up to you to decide...
This is the only question I ask myself when I am put in this kind of situation in life. I always get my answer listening to my intuition and my soul. I have never let me down so far. At least, since I found the courage to follow it about 3-4 years ago. Identifying the negative people and thoughts in your life is one thing, but following your soul's answers is another. All I know my life had turned for the better since I choose to follow it and trust my "gut feeling" about people and my thoughts. And, you have the power to do the same.It is your life, live it the way you want to live it and decide who you want to be surrounded with during this gift we all got called LIFE.
This is a picture of me at my peace place from the last season playing for Costa d'Orlando Basket. Located in the town called Capo d' Orlando on the island of Sicily. This place is on the hill overlooking the entire city and the gorgeous scenery behind me. Perfect for tunning into my soul "radio."
Find Your Own Place Of Peace
One thing I know for sure and that is we all need to find our own "quiet place to silence our minds, in order to hear our soul". Sometimes we all get on the negative thinking side of life, and it can be energy draining, and even discouraging. This is why we all need some time alone, to clear our thoughts. We all need the place where we can just relax, take a few deep breaths, calm our minds, and let our soul speak to us. Let it calm our minds, and clear our thoughts. Be your own "anti-virus program."
Find your own place on a beach or any place which you find calming. Tune into your soul channel and let it guide you through tough times. Let those negative thoughts wash away from your body. Listen to your gut feeling and intuition. Because that little tiny voice inside you is YOU. The REAL YOU. Listen to YOURSELF.
Listen to your soul...
"Find a quiet place to silence your mind in order to hear your soul."
Thank you all for reading, find that peaceful place for you, take some deep breaths, and free yourself from the negativity, much love,
dbjegovic💓 💗 💖 💓 💗 💖💓💓💓
If you enjoyed this post but need some extra motivation, go and check out some of the other motivational posts I wrote:
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